Lacey Kelly on Unbecoming, Belonging, and Reclaiming Wholeness in a Hyper-Stimulated World

Trauma therapist and author Lacey Kelly, founder of the Unbecoming Hub, discusses her work at the intersection of psychology, nervous system science, and existential questions of identity, burnout, and belonging. She reflects on being an anxious, ungrounded teen drawn to philosophy and meaning, and says she first felt at home in herself in her late twenties after an autoimmune illness and stepping off the “hamster wheel” of self-fixing.

Lacey defines “unbecoming” as releasing constant striving to become someone else and returning to a grounded home base of ease and inherent wholeness. The conversation critiques self-help culture, isolation and loss of “third spaces,” and how technology provides accessible but often unsatisfying ...