Bridging the Desire Gap: Somatic Intimacy, Communication, and Pleasure

Dr. Laura Jurgens, a certified sex and relationship coach and creator of the Desire Gap Bridge Method, discusses how her background in science and personal trauma informed her somatic, body-based approach to helping couples navigate libido mismatches, which she says affect about 80% of long-term couples.

The conversation explores how people attach painful meaning to desire differences, why stereotypes about which partner wants more sex are often wrong, and how narrow, patriarchal definitions of sex and inadequate sex education push people toward porn-based scripts and performance, shame, and disconnection.

Jurgens emphasizes pleasure-focused intimacy, moment-to-moment embodied consent, reconnecting with the body, and practicing difficult co ...