The Family Architect: Parenting by Design, Rather than by Default

by Philippa Scott

Welcome to The Family Architect: Parenting by Design, Rather than by Default, where we strip back the pretence and get real about the raw, messy, and beautiful reality of raising kids today. I’m Philippa Scott—mum of four, grandmother, crunchy as they come, and here to help you navigate the wild ride of parenting with a healthy dose of honesty, a touch of wit, and yes, the occasional swear word.

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  • Season 1

  • From Meltdowns to Connections: The Science of Co-Regulation

    From Meltdowns to Connections: The Science of Co-Regulation

    S01 E07
    Feb 6, 2025
    08:15

    Ever watched your child spiral into an epic meltdown over stretchy cheese or a too-high swing? In this episode, we're binning the timeout chairs and diving into the groundbreaking science of emotional co-regulation. Featuring insights from Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté, plus a ripper story about 'The Great Pizza Demolition,' we'll explore why your presence matters more than any parenting technique you've got up your sleeve. Perfect for parents who are done with the 'just stay calm' advice and ready for real strategies that actually work in the chaos of everyday life. Join us in the Family Architect Studio for community and connection https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/the-family-architect-studio www.fantasticfuture.com.au All the socials and more bio.site/fantasticfutures Check out the accompanying blog post for more https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/blog/how-to-help-your-child-regulate-big-emotions parenting, emotional regulation, child development, gentle parenting, conscious parenting, toddler tantrums, parenting tips, child psychology, Australian parenting, mindful parenting

  • When Nice Parents Turn Into Dragons: Understanding Rage vs Anger

    When Nice Parents Turn Into Dragons: Understanding Rage vs Anger

    S01 E06
    Jan 14, 2025
    12:48

    Ever gone from calm to nuclear in 0.2 seconds? In this episode, we're diving into the real difference between parent anger and rage. Discover why your nervous system's been collecting experiences since before birth, and why that 'What's for dinner?' question isn't really about dinner at all. Learn the science behind why nice parents sometimes lose it, and more importantly - what you can actually do about it. Plus, find out why installing an emotional tap might be the renovation your nervous system needs. Join us in the Family Architect Studio for community and connection https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/the-family-architect-studio www.fantasticfuture.com.au All the socials and more bio.site/fantasticfutures Check out the accompanying blog post for more https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/blog/when-nice-parents-lose-it-the-science-behind-rage #ParentingPodcast #ParentRage #MumRage #ConsciousParenting #ParentMentalHealth #EmotionalRegulation #ParentingSupport #MentalHealth #ParentingByDesign #TRTP #NervousSystem #ParentingHelp #MomLife #ParentingTips #EmotionalIntelligence

  • Trusting Your Parental Gut: Beyond the Noise to Natural Wisdom

    Trusting Your Parental Gut: Beyond the Noise to Natural Wisdom

    S01 E05
    Jan 4, 2025
    12:27

    Feel overwhelmed by conflicting parenting advice? In this transformative episode, we explore the powerful difference between instinct and intuition, and how to reconnect with your natural parenting wisdom. Learn practical tools to strengthen your inner guidance system and make confident decisions that truly align with your family's unique needs. Plus, discover how anthropological research supports trusting your parental instincts. Featuring: The Sacred Morning Check-in: A powerful practice for reconnecting with your intuition The Power Pause: Transform how you make parenting decisions The Heart's Truth Filter: Navigate parenting advice with confidence Real-life applications and scientific backing FREE Values Alignment Guide - https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/values-alignment-guide Special offer: "Setting Intentions & Creating A Vision For Your Family" module https://www.philippascott.com/product-details/product/66e2d3077e59222549a15866 Perfect for parents who: Feel overwhelmed by conflicting advice Want to make more confident parenting decisions Are ready to trust their inner wisdom Need practical tools for challenging moments Desire to create a more intentional family life 13th Jan - 18th Jan 2025 Time outs can kiss my A** Challenge - https://go.fantasticfuture.com.au/timeoutchallenge Join us in the Family Architect Studio for community and connection https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/the-family-architect-studio www.fantasticfuture.com.au All the socials and more bio.site/fantasticfutures Tags #ParentingPodcast #ConsciousParenting #ParentingTips #ParentingByDesign #FamilyLife #ParentingJourney #IntuitiveParenting #MindfulParenting #ParentingSupport #ParentingWisdom #FamilyValues #ParentingAdvice #PositiveParenting #ParentingCommunity #FamilyFirst

  • The Uncomfortable Truth: Your Kids Don't Need More Playdates - They Need You to Have Mates

    The Uncomfortable Truth: Your Kids Don't Need More Playdates - They Need You to Have Mates

    S01 E04
    Dec 30, 2024
    07:28

    Strewth! In this eye-opening episode, we're stirring the pot about modern parenting and the myth of "socialisation through peers." Ready for some truth bombs? We dive deep into why your endless kid-focused activities might be missing the point entirely. Learn why watching you build genuine adult friendships could be more valuable for your kids than another structured playdate. Drawing from real stories and backed by research from experts like Gabor Maté, we'll explore how to shift from default digital connections to creating the authentic community your family craves. Warning: this episode might make helicopter parents a bit uncomfy! Join us in the Family Architect Studio for community and connection https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/the-family-architect-studio www.fantasticfuture.com.au All the socials and more bio.site/fantasticfutures

  • Parenting from Relationship, Not Behaviour: Building Stronger Connections with Your Kids

    Parenting from Relationship, Not Behaviour: Building Stronger Connections with Your Kids

    S01 E03
    Dec 17, 2024
    06:02

    What happens when we shift our focus from correcting behaviour to understanding our child’s intentions? In this episode of The Family Architect, Philippa Scott explores the power of relationship-based parenting. She explains how acknowledging a child’s good intentions—even when their actions miss the mark—can build trust, boost self-esteem, and strengthen the parent-child connection. Learn practical tips for transforming conflict into collaboration and creating a family dynamic rooted in mutual respect. 🎧 Tune in now to discover how to parent with the heart, not just the rules! Join us in the Family Architect Studio for community and connection https://www.fantasticfuture.com.au/the-family-architect-studio www.fantasticfuture.com.au All the socials and more bio.site/fantasticfutures