Modern dating keeps promising freedom, choice, and connection — but for many people it delivers noise, burnout, and confusion instead. In this episode of The Connection Audit, Kirsten and Blake take a clear-eyed look at the relationship skills people actually need if they want ethical non-monogamy to be safe, respectful, and sustainable.

They begin by auditing the culture: why today’s platforms reward speed, performance, and snap judgement over patience, character, and emotional honesty. From swipe fatigue and choice overload to the collision between modern consent values and outdated gender scripts, this episode explores why so many people feel exhausted before anything real has even begun.

Then they audit behaviour. Why do so many men fall into the status versus character trap? Why do women so often ...