Nonmonogamy
by The Mindful Modern Mistress
Open relationships, nonmonogamy, affairs, hall passes and everything in between. This discussions are here.
Podcast episodes
Guidelines for Open Relationships, Nonmonogamy and Mistressing
This podcast focuses on an excerpt from a book titled “The Ground Rules of Mistressing” written by The Mindful Modern Mistress. The author, who has been a mistress herself, shares a set of guidelines for those engaging in extramarital affair, open relationships, hall passes, fwb's and everything in between. The rules are presented as a mindful checklist for navigating the emotional, physical, and relational complexities of an affair. The author emphasizes the importance of establishing clear boundaries, expectations, and safety measures while acknowledging the potential risks and emotional challenges involved. The text also offers advice on maintaining discretion, managing feelings, and renegotiating terms over time, ultimately advocating for a mindful and respectful approach to extramarital relationships.
Challenging Traditional Views
This podcast touches on ideas presented in a book written by a self-proclaimed "Mindful Modern Mistress," who aims to deconstruct the negative connotations associated with the word "mistress" and normalize the practice of extramarital affairs. The author outlines the historical evolution of the term "mistress" and argues that affairs can be healthy and fulfilling if conducted mindfully, with mutual respect, clear communication, and boundaries. She also explores the complexities of monogamy, emphasizing the high prevalence of infidelity and its impact on relationships. The book provides a guide to navigating affairs ethically and with minimal harm, offering insights into personal experiences, challenges, and lessons learned. The author concludes by providing a set of "Ground Rules of Mistressing" to aid individuals seeking to engage in affairs responsibly.
The Ethical Affair
This excerpt from "A Guide to Loving Yourself and Getting What You Need as The Mindful Modern Mistress" by a sex and dating coach, discusses the ethics of exploring non-monogamy and the potential for infidelity in relationships. The author argues that while ethical non-monogamy can be successful for some couples, it requires a strong foundation of compersion, which is the ability to feel happy for someone else's success and happiness. She acknowledges that many couples fail at open relationships because they lack the ability to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and navigate underlying issues. The author suggests that infidelity, while often viewed as unethical, can be a mindful and ethical choice if it is carefully considered and executed in a way that minimizes harm to all parties involved. However, she emphasizes that this approach requires a high level of self-awareness, honesty, and communication, as well as careful consideration of the potential impact on both partners.
The Myth of Monogamy
The author argues that monogamy is a societal myth, pointing to research suggesting that cheating is prevalent in American relationships and that only a small percentage of couples successfully maintain monogamous relationships long-term. The author argues that this is due to the unrealistic expectations placed on monogamy, and that people should be more mindful of the fact that human beings are naturally inclined to seek both sexual and emotional connection, which may not always be confined to a single relationship. The author encourages readers to acknowledge this human tendency and to be more open to exploring different types of relationships, rather than clinging to a societal ideal that may not be attainable or sustainable.
Pasted Text: Questioning Monogamy
This podcast reviews ideas generated by The Mindful Modern Mistress, a dating and sex coach, who argues that monogamy is a societal construct and not a natural human condition. The author challenges the societal view of cheating as a moral failing, presenting statistics that suggest it is a common occurrence. The excerpt further suggests that both partners in a relationship may contribute to infidelity, as unmet needs often lead individuals to seek fulfillment outside the relationship. It encourages readers to consider the emotional and psychological factors contributing to infidelity, rather than solely focusing on the ethical implications.