Trouble is inevitable- it finds all of us, no matter how much we grow, heal, or try to avoid it. What changes everything isn't what happens.... It's how you respond to what happens. Being used to reacting off emotion-- quick, defensive, and sometimes destructive. Now, you learn to pause, to think, to choose a response instead of letting my fear or feelings choose it for me. Growth is realizing that while you can't control every situation, you can always control who you become in the middle of it.