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Hello — I’m Amber Lynn, host of The Anxious Attachment Solution. I help women calm their nervous systems, rewire anxious patterns, stop overthinking, and build secure habits using my Secure Method. Today we’re unpacking how anxious attachment is shaped by the beliefs we hold about love — and how those beliefs keep us stuck.
Beliefs form when we repeat thoughts until they feel true. If you grew up with inconsistent or emotionally immature caregivers, you learned survival beliefs: “I must be perfect to be loved,” “Love is conditional,” “People can’t be trusted.” Those beliefs create feelings (unworthy, fearful, anxious) that hijack your nervous system and drive survival behaviors: clinging, panic in conflict, people-pleasing, and chronic self-doubt. The result? Relationships that feel intense, uncertain, and conditional — even when your partn ...