The Truth About Becoming That Girl: Inner Work, Identity & What Social Media Won’t Tell You

The internet will tell you that “becoming that girl” takes matcha, Pilates, a 10-step routine, and a perfectly curated life. But in this episode, we get honest about what it really takes—and why social media has the whole idea backwards.

We talk about the unseen labor behind self-growth: the perfectionism, the comparison, the pressure to show up flawlessly, and the loneliness that comes with doing life on your own terms. We also unpack how the “that girl” aesthetic preys on insecurity, ignores individuality, and often masks the real work: therapy, self-awareness, emotional healing, and honoring your actual purpose.

From body image to content creation to boundaries and burnout, we explore what your personal version of that girl looks like—without the pressure to perform, copy anyone else’s blueprint, or chase an aesthet ...