Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

by Amber Akilla

Society & Culture

Season 7

if you can't do it scared, do it ironically: micro-dosing risk, getting out of your comfort zone

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/0u9iMbXQhV8 DO IT FIRST AND LAUGH IT OFF LATER :D 1:56 - internet illusions 3:33 - micro-dosing risk 4:14 - understanding your patterns 7:25 - breaking patterns 9:02 - its not hard its just new 10:41 - yolo 11:31 - do it ironically 14:19 - gaslight yourself 14:36 - work with your authentic voice 15:31 - focus on consistency 17:17 - appreciate contrast 17:57 - protect your self concept follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

all of your time is equally valuable ☆ being present

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/qXdL5JjLVAw we are constantly being sold the illusion that time which is paid for is the most 'valuable' time which can allow for anxiety and depression to build up. having awareness and intention in how we spend our time and ensuring that we are able to bring ourselves back to the present moment is one of the most radical things we can do in an attention economy. 1:00 - 1. the past and future are illusions 2:23 - 2. time in a false heirarchy 4:12 - 3. the illusion of productivity vs boredom 5:38 - 4. colonizing your boredom 6:02 - 5. get some interests 6:38 - 6. consumption, creativity, contribution 8:12 - 7. being present 11:34 - 8. break the cycle 12:11 - 9. time is the most valuable resource 12:54 - 10. allocating your time and attention 15:15 - 11. priorities and relationships 16:46 - 12. presence in discomfort 17:53 - 13. question your conditioning 20:12 - 14. adjust with each life stage 21:51 - 15. re-direct and allow for re-calibration 22:13 - 16. set intentions and boundaries 24:48 - 17. enjoy the journey 24:57 - 18. success is overcoming failure 25:24 - 19. be hot & having fun or die trying 26:08 - 20. diversify your options 27:00 - 21. is it your mindset, your circumstances or a combination follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

increase your baseline: discipline, acceptance, life audit, baby steps, being hot & having fun!!!

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/qXdL5JjLVAw thank you so much for subscribing and supporting the channel angels!!! this is a long one so strap in. something i didn't mention was of course to also consult mental health professionals when you're going through it. sometimes its worth going even when things seem like they're fine just for a lil check up and deep dive. let me know in the comments what has helped you to increase your baseline, how you maintain it and any questions! 02:37 - 1. everything is vibes 03:42 - 2. everything is changing all the time 04:01 - 3. integrating spiritual and material 04:33 - 4. where is your baseline 05:17 - 5. mind vs matter 07:40 - 6. define success for yourself 10:02 - 7. discipline - constructive vs destructive the road less travelled by m. scott peck https://amzn.to/496J0SD (*) 1. delaying of gratification 2. acceptance of responsibility 3. dedication to truth 4. balancing 18:40 - 8. integrating your emotions 19:50 - 9. diffuse your awareness 21:09 - 10. being present, practicing non-judgement 24:37 - 11. give up on being perfect, enjoy the journey 26:28 - 12. life audit 32:40 - 13. social audit, community 33:35 - 14. contribute to something outside of yourself 34:12 - 15. creativity 35:29 - 16. baby steps atomic habits - james clear https://amzn.to/496J0SD (*) 37:08 - 17. conclusion (*)amazon affiliate links follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

UNDERSTANDING LOVE: DEFINING CONNECTION

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/mqu4RRzr2oo what is love.mp3 book mentioned: the road less travelled by m. scott peck (*)https://amzn.to/496J0SD other love related videos by meee: is love a neurochemical con job? (podcast) https://youtu.be/uXvumVQkeBE dating after a first love (podcast) https://youtu.be/igKB7V3pvcU girl boss vs lover girl wanting romance & commitment https://youtu.be/FwplRB_SIeg do you need to kill the lover girl inside of you https://youtu.be/XhlztSH29_g ~~~ (*)amazon affiliate link follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

it's not the boy you're crying over: the crying gap - standards, expectations vs reality

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/UJOsMitowCI follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla

everything is vibes - be hot and have fun!!!

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/1mv6EZX003Y follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

rethinking imposter syndrome

i got asked about imposter syndrome recently, there's definitely some overlap with comparing yourself to others (see previous video) but i made this video as an add on/extension. let me know your thoughts as always please!! my skin looks so bad here but i was too lazy to put a filter on so i'm keeping it 99 !!!xx 02:30 - everyone is a newbie at some point 03:28 - confidence revised 04:10 - life is a project, performance art! 05:09 - confident people won’t judge you or put you down 05:36 - lock in on your purpose 07:10 - don’t always assume competition 08:04 - understanding your projections 08:21 - make friends, connect over common experience 09:09 - recognize the unpredictability of each person’s journey 09:40 - healthy competition 09:59 - embrace your uniqueness 10:16 - what your know vs who you know 10:50 - understanding nepotism 11:55 - build your own thing instead of feeling like you need to be allowed into someone else’s project 13:28 - redefine success 14:40 - diversify your focus and interests 15:19 - legally blonde - elle woods is an icon! 18:10 - redefine purpose follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

hot girls don't let comparison be the thief of joy

talking through the mental blocks that can occur when we get stuck on comparing ourselves to others in a way that hinders our ability to be HOT and HAVE FUN !!! 03:33 - radical acceptance 05:11 - practicing gratitude 07:07 - set intentions 07:52 - lean into irony when being serious feels like a joke 08:37 - abundance vs delusion 09:45 - your mindset affects your decision making 11:00 - awareness + intentional action 11:28 - practice connecting with your experience of life 11:41 - you will face challenges no matter what 13:10 - rejection is protection and redirection 14:14 - nobody knows what they’re doing 15:58 - other people’s success are evidence of what is possible 18:03 - be honest with yourself about the lengths you will go 18:25 - your own story unfolds through action, not comparison 19:27 - additional thoughts 20:22 - there's more than just what you think or have been told is 'success' 21:00 - understanding your validation needs 22:28 - how my idea of success as a DJ has changed over time follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

what to do when you don't know what to do

that overwhelming "wtf" feeling 01:54 - context can differ, dyanmic/feelings are usually consistent 02:45 - its better to do something, rather than nothing 03:12 - don’t let perfect be the enemy of good 04:06 - learn to be a beginner 05:23 - what i learnt during the panini (external changes) 06:43 - noticing the negative thought pattern: “when x happens, then i can be happy” 06:48 - lean into how you feel - anything repressed/suppressed will start to infect your life 07:31 - getting sick of yourself 07:37 - what would your younger self/future self think 08:43 - follow your curiosity 11:06 - there is so much you can’t control/ certainty is an illusion 11:38 - 20% of the work for 80% of the outcomes 12:03 - saying yes to random opportunties 13:37 - find something to anchor you and organize your time around 14:37 - you can’t always predict how things will unfold 15:08 - internal transition phases 15:27 - trying is better than nothing 17:03 - the outcome and structure forms as you go 17:10 - it doesn’t have to be related - focus on enjoying 17:48 - do it because you want to - not because of what you think other people will think 18:14 - what other people think is a collateral benefit 18:35 - you can do something you enjoy and it still be difficult 19:00 - things will be hard regardless 20:24 - don’t wait for the world to change or give you permission 21:16 - the value of small steps over complete overhauls 21:46 - focus on being present 22:14 - you can’t think your way into the present moment 22:30 - cutting down on social media 25:14 - you never know what’s going to happen!!! follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

growth doesn't have an aesthetic

a short video with a gentle reminder that your mental/spiritual/emotional growth doesn't have to look a certain way in order to be valid. maybe your physical and mental glow up happens at the same time and it will be more effective when you are intentional about integrating the range of skills and experiences required - many of which i discuss in previous video and podcast content. please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!!! love ya xx follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

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