Episode 78: Developing Stronger Relationship with Vicky Essebag

FocusED Show Notes with Guest Vicky Essebag

Vicky starts by defining “relationspaces” as the way that we bring ourselves to the spaces where we develop relationships.

Vicky tells us that we have preconceived notions about how we’re communicating and sometimes it’s effective and other times it’s not.

Vicky gives us an example of where our communication as teachers to students might be landing wrong in a way that only supports more misbehavior.

It’s better to minimize our noticing of the behaviors that are not desirable and maximize our noticing of the desired behaviors.

Solution-Focused is a strength-based approach. And, the future aspect of it asks the question, what does the person want?

Vicky says that success happens in small increments. Change happens gradually. Her advice is to take a few steps back when t ...