Episode 4: Who Controls You?

Episode 4: Who Controls You?

In healthy groups and relationships, members retain their own sense of what's right, their own voices, their intellectual freedom, and their own ideas. In healthy groups, the systems of group control are healthy and nourishing.

In unhealthy groups, the systems of control will demand high dedication, high intensity, self-silencing, intellectual sameness, and extreme perfectionism. In unhealthy groups and relationships, the systems themselves are abusive.

But there is no need to create systems of control that are high-demand or abusive. Healthy groups and relationships are everywhere, and learning about what healthy (and unhealthy) groups look like can protect each of us from unnecessary harm.

SIGNS OF HEALTHY SYSTEMS OF CONTROL

• The system is democratic; all members have a say in h ...