What if the problem isn’t the sky, but our expectations?

In this episode we step back from targets, charts, and techniques to talk about something every stargazer eventually encounters: the myth of the perfect night. Clear horizons, steady seeing, and flawless gear. Astronomy culture often presents these moments as normal, when in reality they’re exceptions. Most nights are compromised, interrupted, or quietly frustrating. It’s the nature of the hobby.

We explore how social media and memory itself smooth over disappointment, how unmet expectations can drain motivation, and why so many astronomers quietly drift away without realizing nothing is actually “wrong.” From dew-soaked star parties and missed comets to long stretches of waiting and adjusting, this episode hopes to show those imperfect nights still matter.

If you’ve ever  ...