The Real Work After ‘Happily Ever After’: Healing Dysregulation Together

When a Navy SEAL comes home, the battle doesn’t always end — and for couples, the hardest part isn’t disconnection. It’s dysregulation. In this raw, hope-filled episode of Love & Trauma: The Real Deal, Erin Smith opens up about what it was like to fall in love with someone healing from trauma — and how they learned to stop fighting each other and start fighting for regulation and peace. Erin and I talk about everything from “ego flares” to the moment you realize it’s not about you, how to set boundaries without abandoning yourself, and how to recognize whether you’re reacting to a snake or a stick. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything to keep the peace and it’s still not working, this conversation will give you the real tools, language, and hope to finally start  ...