Get your SHIFT™ together.
Hosted by Davina Hehn, forensic & counseling psychology expert turned no-BS coach, SHIFT Talking™ dives into self-awareness, healing, and communication—without the therapy clichés.
💡 Break cycles. Heal from the bullshit. Transform how you show up.
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Hey friend—here’s your reminder that boundaries aren’t about keeping people out… they’re about keeping you from disappearing. This SHIFT Rx hits you with the boldest truth most people don’t want to admit: People pleasing is manipulation. Yup. That uncomfortable squirm in your gut? That’s your nervous system realizing that playing nice was never the same as being kind. This episode will shift the way you think about boundaries—from something you set to something you live by. We’re going deeper than surface-level scripts. We’re unpacking the real reason boundaries feel so hard and why they blow up relationships that were never steady to begin with. This is for anyone who’s ever said: “I don’t want to upset them.” “I just want to be a good partner/friend/person.” “Why do I always end up resentful?” Press play. You’ll hear: 🔥 The truth about people pleasing (and why it’s not as noble as you thought) 🔥 Why early relationship “amenability” leads to long-term resentment 🔥 How to tell if your boundary is actually just control in disguise 🔥 The biggest lie we tell ourselves about keeping the peace 🔥 A real-time breakdown of what actual boundaries sound like (and what they don’t) No guilt. No groveling. No more mistaking self-erasure for love. 🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with water, truth, and a backbone. 🎧 Listen, breathe, and forward this to the one friend still calling control a boundary. ⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need. Take Action: Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Book a PREP Call Become a STEADY Friend Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.
Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled. SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send—the one that reminds you you’re not crazy, you’re just growing. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat and self-help fluff. Each episode is like a voice note I’d send after your “why TF does this feel so lonely?” spiral—calling you in, not out, with a mix of strategy, soul, and lived experience. Not here to make you palatable—here to make you powerful. Let’s get you STEADY AF. In this raw and real episode, I’m answering one of the most uncomfortable truths in growth work: “Why do my friends and family seem to hate that I’m changing?” Short answer? Because your evolution makes their stagnation uncomfortable. Longer answer? Press play. You’ll hear: 🔥 What it really means when someone says “you’ve changed” (hint: mission accomplished) 🔥 How to process the grief of outgrowing old dynamics 🔥 Why guilt is part of it—and why it doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong 🔥 The real boundary flex: letting them be uncomfortable while you stay steady 🔥 How to know when it’s time to create distance vs. repair the connection No fluff. No people-pleasing. No pretending this part doesn’t suck. Just the reminder that you are not “too much”—you’re just finally being enough for yourself. 🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with water and a boundary. 🎧 Hit play, then forward it to someone who needs permission to keep growing—even if it pisses people off. ⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need. Take Action: Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Book a PREP Call Become a STEADY Friend Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.
Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled. SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send that you didn’t know you needed. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat and the self-help fluff. Each episode is like a voice note I’d send after your 10 p.m. “why TF do I keep doing this” text—calling you in, not out, with a combo of strategy, science, and mutual respect. Not here to soothe your ego—here to shift your sh*t. Let’s get you STEADY AF. In this spicy little episode, I’m answering one of the most asked (and least answered) questions: “Why do I keep ending up in toxic dynamics?” Short answer? It’s not just them. Long answer? Press play. You’ll hear: 🔥 The hard truth about patterns (and how you contribute to your own suffering) 🔥 Why healing isn’t about 12 years of therapy—it’s about acceptance and action 🔥 The real reason you’re drawn to the same dysfunction on repeat 🔥 How to tell if someone’s solid chocolate or just a hollow shell wrapped in shiny foil (yes, we’re talking Easter bunnies AND people) No sugarcoating. No scripts. No “just love yourself” B.S. Just real talk, practical insight, and the push you didn’t know you needed—from your favorite professional friend who gives a damn. 🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take as needed. 🎧 Hit play, then share with someone who needs to hear it. ⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need. Take Action: Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Book a PREP Call Become a STEADY Friend Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.
We’ve all been there: confidently repeating something we thought was true… only to find out later it’s not. This episode? That’s me. Owning it. Because I got got—and it matters. So why not just stay quiet and move on? Because accountability matters—and I’m modeling the SHIFT. In this episode, I’ll walk you through: 🔥 The real reason it’s so hard to admit we’re wrong (and what it does to our nervous system) 🔥 How confirmation bias and cognitive dissonance sneak into our parenting and beliefs 🔥 What I did instead of spiraling into shame—and how you can too 🔥 Why defensiveness kills growth, and how transparency builds credibility 🔥 How to use my SHIFT framework to move through mistakes instead of being paralyzed by them This isn’t just about a mistake. It’s about self-awareness, healing, and becoming the kind of adult we want our kids to model. Because being wrong isn’t the problem. Staying wrong is. ⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need. Sign up in the show notes! 03:00 Confirmation Bias & How It Hit Me 05:27 The SHIFT Framework in Real Time 07:52 Shame vs. Guilt: Why This Hit So Hard 10:10 Fortitude, Feedback, and Public Growth 12:33 Transparency > Perfection 14:59 How You React When Challenged (And What To Do Differently) Take Action: Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Book a PREP Call Become a STEADY Friend Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.
Parenting advice is everywhere, but most of it skips the biggest factor—you. In this episode, we’re flipping the script on traditional parenting strategies and focusing on what really changes the game: your emotional state, your regulation, your healing. If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering why no tactic seems to work, this is for you. I’ll break down: 🔥 Why parenting isn’t about controlling your kid—it’s about steadying yourself 🔥 The 10-second check-in that will change how you react (and prevent meltdowns—for both of you) 🔥 How unhealed childhood wounds shape your parenting—and how to break the cycle 🔥 Why “just stay calm” is bullsh*t advice* (and what actually works instead) We’re not memorizing scripts. We’re not sugarcoating. This is real parenting for real people—with strategies you can actually use. ⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need. Sign up in the show notes! 03:00 Shallow Waters of Healing 09:11 The Role of Social Interaction 12:03 Creating Rituals and Habits 18:10 Integrating Wellness into Daily Life 21:07 The Balance of Positivity and Reality 26:49 Navigating Mental Health and Agency 29:46 The Journey of Healing and Growth Take Action: Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Book a PREP Call Become a STEADY Friend Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.