Existential Kink, BDSM, and Reclaiming Intimacy: with Tina Estrella

Certified existential kink coach and former professional dominatrix Tina Estrella shares her path from years of substance abuse, self-harm, and misdiagnoses to discovering she’s on the AuDHD spectrum and shifting toward nervous-system-informed, somatic, parts-based work.

She recounts a pivotal “bathroom floor” moment—hearing a clear inner voice ask, “Tina, what are you doing?”—that sparked self-responsibility and a rapid decision to stop destructive behaviours, despite the social upheaval of reinventing her life. The conversation explores her BDSM work (starting as a professional sub, later domme), emphasizing consent, boundaries, and how submission can feel freeing—especially for people burdened by constant control and productivity.

Tina explai ...