Stop Checking

Acceptance means sticking with your story even in moments when it seems like the bully will never back off.

The way to accept that things will eventually fall into place and you’ll get through this bullying better for it, is to stop checking.

Checking is…reassurance seeking.

We do it to assess the outcome of our goals before they’ve happened.

It’s too soon to know, but we NEED to know now, so we check too early and too often.

This kind of data collection AKA checking will give you a false reading whether the news is good or bad in any given moment.

Why you might ask can we not trust such data? The answer is because you haven’t allowed enough time to pass for the bullying pattern to completely dissipate.

Bullying, no matter how long it’s gone on, will eventually end after a period of your calm and low eff ...