Wellish

by Sarah Ritondale

Self-Improvement

Season 1

5 Things I Wish I Knew When I Started My Well(ish)ness Journey

This week I am breaking down 5 things that if I had only known sooner, would have sped up my journey towards mental clarity tenfold. I get into my behavior in my unhealthiest state, exploiting myself for your entertainment per usual, and how making these VERY SIMPLE changes/realizations instantly propelled me forward in becoming a higher version of myself.

Being Judgemental Is A Self Improvement Tool

Passing judgement isn't toxic. It becomes toxic when we start imposing our judgements on others. If we keep them to ourselves they can be used for what I think this inevitable feeling is truly for. Allowing our judgements to point us towards our ideal selves, getting to know ourselves better, and helping us decipher the things we do and don't believe in to create a life we're proud to live. I'm sick of feeling like an a*shole every time I judge someone and never being able to maintain the unbreakable habit of being impeccable with my word. As long as we aren't intentionally or unintentionally causing harm to others we can redirect these seemingly negative thoughts to something more constructive for our own growth.

Listen To This If You've Ever Felt Insecure For Being The Relationship Type

If you are the relationship type and have ever felt insecure about not being the casual dating type. Relationships have been given this stigma of being too much work and/or commitment, too boring or stagnant, essentially as soon as you are in one, you lose your edge. While casual dating is glorified and sexy, but most of the time can actually feel much more miserable than the long term relationship. If you have ever felt less than good enough for not being here for the hoe phase, we are normalizing long term relationships feeling sexy.

Shoulding Is For The Weak

If you're like me and find yourself shoulding yourself all too often, essentially you are telling yourself you're not good enough. You have to put intention behind making this mindset shift and today we are walking through specific ways to start doing this. We get into the question of who we are and how intertwined a shoulding mentality is with this concept because of how much we get caught up in the shoulding that we lose touch with what we actually want. This leads to us knowing the person we're supposed to be and not actually who we are. Navigating away from this will help us regain our ability to discover what we truly want in order to start taking the correct steps that will get us closer to a life we feel good about living.

Align Your Ideal Life With Your Current Life

Last week I was tearing myself to shreds that I wasn't living the life I wanted to live. I am so sick of listening to other people's success stories to make me feel better or hearing the advice of look how far you've come. It doesn't satiate my desire to attain the life I continuously find myself picturing in my head. This week we're talking about what does satiate that desire, how to stop beating yourself up over the life you're currently living.

Being Kinda Toxic Is What Makes Life Interesting

After spending the last month telling you guys how we can love ourselves to the fullest I feel like I leaned so much into the kinda well side of myself that I don't want the kinda toxic part of me (literally 50% of who I am) to slip through the cracks. This week I am breaking down for you all of my toxic traits from petty ones to ones that I should probably look into fixing a little harder. All in all, isn't it our toxic traits that make life a little more entertaining though?

Day 28: Being Fully Healed Is A Myth, But Fully Loving Yourself Is Not

For our last day of this month long series together I want to of course ease some of the pressure. I never expected you to get all the way through the 28 Days Of Self Love and be completely healed from whatever was troubling you when you began the challenge. That's because there will always be shit to heal from. We can't expect to be fully healed to just be knocked down by life's bullshit that so much of the time is out of our control. But we can love ourselves 100%. The same way that you continue to love another person or pet more and more everyday the same applies to yourself. You can love yourself fully today and just keep loving yourself more tomorrow. I love all of you so much and I am so grateful for everyone who too this journey with me. I will talk to you Ishies MONDAY!!!!

Day 27: Trust Your Instincts

You are not stupid. There is a reason behind your thoughts. At the end of the day there is a reason you are having them. This is not to be mixed up with your overthinking mind, but looking at your initial thoughts and diving into the core of it to discover the truth is going to save you a lot of time and grief compared to not listening to it and finding out, typically in a harder way, that you were right.

Day 26: The Fear Of Being Seen

As we come to the end of our self love journey together I want to talk to you guys about one of my biggest fears. I believe that the more you step into the the best version of yourself the more you are becoming your truest, most genuine, self. Therefore, when you are given the opportunity to show people this evolved version of you and you face the possibility of being rejected or judged for who you ACTUALLY are??? Phew, terrifying. Not to mention the possibility of losing the current people in your life who have already accepted the old version of you. We're covering all of it today.

Day 25: Give Yourself Permission To Evolve

The word evolution sounds soooo long term. No thanks. I want to feel like the best version of myself now. I don't want the only answer for this to be that I need to accept myself flaws and all as I am right now because again that's something that takes practice, in other words, time. I want answers now and to feel good about who I am now compared to constantly waiting to meet this better future version of myself that never actually arrives. Evolution doesn't have to be long term and I want to tell you guys how to become the new you right now.

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