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True Vine Talks

True Vine Talks

by True Vine Counseling

Mental Health Relationships

Healthy Relationships: Lessons from the Dark Triad

In this episode, we explore what psychology can teach us about recognizing healthy relationships through the lens of the Dark Triad, which includes narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. Rather than focusing on spotting "bad people," we examine the deeper qualities that distinguish genuine character from surface-level appeal. Learn why charm is not the same as kindness, confidence is not the same as competence, and intelligence is not the same as wisdom. We also discuss the importance of empathy, consistent behavior, and healthy boundaries, offering practical insights to help you build relationships rooted in trust, respect, and emotional safety.

The Dark Triad

In this episode, we explore the "Dark Triad" of personality: narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism. We discuss what these three personality constructs have in common, how they differ, and the ways they can show up in everyday relationships, workplaces, and society. Join us as we break down the basics and clear up common misconceptions.

Generativity vs Stagnation: Ages 40-65

In this episode of True Vine Talks, we explore Erik Erikson's stage of Generativity vs. Stagnation (ages 40–65) through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy. We discuss what it means to cultivate genuine care for the next generation by mentoring, sharing wisdom, and building a meaningful legacy. We also examine how feelings of stagnation, isolation, or being "stuck" can emerge when connection is missing. Join us as we explore how secure relationships, community, and emotional connection can foster generativity and help us live lives marked by purpose, impact, and belonging.

Intimacy vs Isolation: Ages 18-40

In this episode of our Erikson's Psychosocial Stages mini-series, we explore the stage of Intimacy vs. Isolation (ages 18–40). From an Emotionally Focused Therapy perspective, we discuss how our ability to form close, secure, and meaningful relationships is shaped by earlier developmental experiences. Join us as we unpack the challenges of vulnerability, connection, attachment, and loneliness, and consider what helps people move toward intimacy rather than isolation during this important season of life.

Identity vs Role Confusion: Ages 12-18

In this episode, we explore Erik Erikson’s stage of psychosocial development known as Identity vs. Role Confusion and discuss why adolescence is such a critical time for developing confidence, independence, and a strong sense of self. Designed for caregivers of teens, this episode examines healthy ways parents can support identity development through encouragement, communication, and appropriate autonomy, while also addressing how overly strict or controlling parenting styles may unintentionally interfere with a teen’s ability to discover who they are.

Industry vs Inferiority: Ages 6-12

In our miniseries 'Stage by Stage: A Parent’s Roadmap', we explore Erikson’s stages of Psychosocial Development. This episode focuses on Industry vs. Inferiority, a pivotal period for children ages 6 to 12. During these years, kids begin comparing themselves to peers to determine what they are good at and where they fit in. This process helps shape confidence, self-esteem, and a sense of pride in their abilities. We discuss how caregivers can support healthy development by focusing on effort over outcome, encouraging persistence, resilience, and a growth mindset rather than perfection. We also highlight the power of positive affirmation and validation in helping children feel seen, capable, and motivated.

The Fawn Response, Part 3: How To Heal & Stop Fawning

You recognized the fawn response. You understood where it came from. Now it's time to heal. In Part 3 of our fawn response mini-series, we're diving into the real work of recovery: setting boundaries without guilt, trusting your own voice again, and breaking the people-pleasing patterns that have kept you stuck. If you're ready to stop shrinking and start living as your full self, this one's for you.

Protest Behaviors in Relationships

Protest behaviors are some of the most misunderstood dynamics in close relationships. They can look like criticism, stonewalling, emotional outbursts, or shutdown, but beneath the surface, they're often a cry for connection. In this episode, we examine common protest behaviors through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy, exploring what they communicate, why they show up, and how recognizing the underlying fear and hurt can open the door to deeper understanding between partners.

The Myth of Attracting The Wrong Person: It's Not Attraction - It's Access

So many people ask, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?!” What if attraction isn’t the real issue at all? In this episode, we unpack a powerful (and often misunderstood) idea: it’s not about who you attract—it’s about who you give your emotional and relational access to. Drawing from attachment theory, we explore how early experiences quietly teach us that connection is earned through availability, emotional labor, proximity, or overfunctioning—and how those patterns can lead to relationships in which your access is taken for granted or even exploited.

The Fawn Response, Part 2: CPTSD and the Need for Safety

In Part 2 of this mini-series, we explore the connection between the fawn response and complex PTSD. This episode examines how fawning develops as a survival strategy in environments where safety depends on appeasing others, remaining small, or avoiding conflict. Together, we’ll unpack why the nervous system learns this response—and why it can be so hard to let go.

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