The Humans We Are
Season 1
by Carola
This week has been challenging for me.I've been feeling off and not quite like myself. I've noticed that in the mornings, I've been feeling anxious and rushed, even when I'm not running late.This has affected my interactions with my kids, making me more irritable and short-tempered with them. Even during lunch with my husband, I've been impatient and wanting him to finish quickly.Negative thoughts have been more prevalent, making me approach my son more sternly, leading to arguments.My driving, which is usually enjoyable, has become more stressful.However, I've learned to give myself compassion, name my emotions, and acknowledge the facts to treat myself better and work through these feelings.I know the lessons I learned will resonate with you too... come listen in. Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
How do you treat yourself when things don't go according to plan? What is your internal dialogue like? Do you have an inner critic that's constantly telling you you're not good enough or that you can't have what you want? It's easy to fall into the trap of believing negative thoughts about ourselves, especially when others are saying hurtful things or questioning our integrity. But it's important to remember that we are the only ones who truly know who we are, and we shouldn't let others define us. Loving ourselves unconditionally can be difficult, especially when it feels like others don't love or accept us. But it's in those moments when we need to show ourselves the most love and kindness. Love is not just a feeling, but also an action that we can take to show ourselves that we are worthy of love and acceptance, no matter what anyone else thinks. Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
Understanding how the nervous system works in general, and getting to know YOUR nervous system and how it has adapted throughout your life, how your PERSONAL Nervous System’s responses of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, are calibrated, is probably the most important thing you can do to support yourself in your day to day, and also to move towards any goal. The reason this is SO important is that your Nervous System determines how you react and experience your life, even before you’re able to consciously think helpful thoughts and potentially reframe a challenging situation. Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
Frustration wants you to stop. Because it’s safe and familiar to not do something new. So if you stop, Frustration wins. Don't let it win. In this episode, I share how I helped my daughter overcome frustration with a simply strategy that will help you too. Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
If you’ve been considering changing jobs or even careers. If you’re not sure about your relationship If you are considering an investment that you aren’t sure about Maybe you want to make a trip Whatever it is… It’s so easy to let yourself coast with the inertia of life… and sometimes, in the back of our minds, we just want to wait and let things resolve themselves. And sometimes that works. But, if you’re not happy now if you’re not fulfilled now. Waiting comes at a cost. So what to do?Listen in to find out... Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
If you’ve ever felt relief when someone else had a similar painful experience as you did, like for example they too, were fired, they too, were passed on for a promotion, they too were complained about, they too were accused of something they didn’t do, they too were misjudged, misrepresented, they too were cheated on, they too made a big mistake… And if a part of you feels shame and judges you for feeling that way, this episode is for youI'm sharing a very vulnerable experience that's currently still unfolding for me, in the hopes that it will help you too Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
I was sitting on the couch in the living room, and my kids were there with me, we were all cozy with our blankets, and on the screen… one of the Minions movies. I had decided that I wanted to spend more time with the kids. I really wanted to be more present in their day-to-day lives. Especially because over the pandemic, and since I work from home, they had gotten used to me being NI the house, but not being really THERE for them… I could see how that was confusing and frustrating to them… I was there so close physically, but I wasn’t available to them. And I wanted that to change, I really wanted to “spend more time together” and be more present with them. If you’ve ever been in a similar position, maybe you too have decided to make this a priority and to make time for it. Which is not always easy, but we do it because it’s important. The kids were really into it, they were loving it! Do you know how kids can be so focused sometimes when what they’re watching interests them? At one point, they both let out a big laugh and looked at me, kind of like when you want to share the funny moment… and I hadn’t even caught it. Under my blanket, I had unlocked my phone, and I was ordering groceries online. Ok, ok, to be honest… I may have been scrolling on IG... Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
This week I share with you the story of how one of my clients shifted her thinking about asking for a raise, which took her from frustrated and resentful, to empowered and in control. Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
Pain is unavoidable in human life, but suffering is optional. If like I did, you are unconsciously believing this thought, you are creating unnecessary suffering in your life. Listen in to figure out if you do, and what to do about it! Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!
In this episode, I explain the framework that has been a gamechanger for my clients and for myself.Some ways in which my life has changed, and yours could too: It’s given me a deeper respect and even reverence for this body, which now is way harder for me to criticize and judge harshly in any way. It makes me be grateful for this human body that partners with me, and it makes me want to take care of it, and show more respect. It makes me more patient and compassionate when I notice patterns of thinking or behavior that this human has automated over the years, which have served me in some ways. And if I want to change them now, that’s all fine and dandy, but that doesn’t justify or give me permission today to be a jerk to the human that I was before in the past, whether the past is 5 years, 20 years, or 5 minutes ago It makes me really curious, and it makes me really want to know myself as a human better. What this human likes and doesn’t like, what comes easy to her, and hard, what she thrives at, what shuts her off. It makes it more accessible to be gentle and kind to myself. It makes it easier to be kind when teaching myself something new, whether a new skill, behavior, or new way of thinking. It makes my experiences of this human life more fun. It makes me want to be more present in it. It makes me want to get more in touch with emotions, I want to really feel. Support the showFind me on Instagram @fuertescarola.And please Subscribe and Share, I appreciate it more than you know!