‘Abhasa theory says that objects don’t exist except in our consciousness. How then do two people agree that this pot is red? The tantric answer is because our consciousnesses are part of the same consciousness. Objective attribute...
'When I was younger, social interaction was difficult, and I worked around it often by going meta in a hyper-verbal way.'I taught my mom partner dance. She felt amazed by how two strangers could come together for an amazing dance ...
'A partner once called me a brain ninja. I enter people’s mind palaces, roam around and open doors, even suggest rearrangements. I see so clearly how people hurt themselves, and I used to be more abrasive and piercing in my feedba...
'If I failed in a relationship while holding tightly, that would so shake the core of who I am. Holding lightly is being outcome-agnostic. It’s not that nothing matters, but you go into a relationship with no expectation that it h...
