Mind Hacks for Quitting Porn
Season 1
by Stephen McConnell
For a lot of men, the unexpected sight of nudity is more than they can handle. They get awkward, they stare, their minds start to wander. And for many, they find themselves seeking out porn just hours or even minutes later. But what if it didn't have to be this way? In this episode I want to offer some practical advice for how to approach situations of nudity in everyday life, and to offer a fresh perspective which I borrowed from my recent travel abroad.
So often as men we are socialized to think that emotions don’t really matter. It’s just a feeling. It doesn’t matter. But how often do we find ourselves hooked on a feeling? In this episode, we discuss the fact that our emotions are surprisingly the very key to why we got stuck in porn in the first place, and they are also the secret to freedom from porn.
Are you disappointed in your attempts to quit porn? You aren't alone. But what if all the disappointment you've experienced is actually more key than you ever realized to your success? Let's flip it around and find out how these temporary lows are actually something you want.
Are you someone who would like to quit porn, but you feel like going completely without orgasm is too tall of an order? This episode provides ideas to consider so that you can find a path forward to quit porn with or without masturbation.
Why does it seem like we can never get enough? Like the need for sex is incredibly hard to satisfy. This idea is what we call "scarcity thinking" that drives us to seek out porn, even when we don't want it. We talk about the antidote in today's episode.
People over the ages have tried to describe the concepts of love and lust in countless ways. But when we're trying to quit porn, what are the most useful ways to define these concepts? Let's move from someone who passively experiences these emotions into the driver's seat of our lives.
Can we find the courage to more fully examine the cost of porn in our lives, including things that we didn’t realize that we were missing out on? Being aware of these hidden benefits of quitting porn increases our motivation to quit.
Is intense sexual drive overwhelming your desire to quit porn? Do you feel at the effect of it, and long to be in the driver's seat? In this episode, we take a look at the science of sexual drive. We consider what that reveals about our path to quitting.
Pain can be a boon or bane, it all depends on how you manage your brain. Pain can seem to span physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. This episode focuses on what we can practically learn from it.
Stress is the ultimate evil, right? The cause of all our problems... or so we've been told. But where did that narrative actually come from? Was it science, or pseudoscience? What if the secret to a more full, happy life isn't the successful avoidance of stress, but rather, the cultivation of the capability to face it head on without fear? If so, how do we start to manage stress in a way that isn't so... stressful?