I Say All That To Say
Season 1
We Almost Got A Divorce
Would You Marry Someone Who Makes Half Your Income?
You Can't Be Broke and Married
by Brooke and Terrell Harris
In our pilot episode, we discuss how a job almost made us call it quits on our marriage, what tools we used to help us get back on track, and what we learned along the way. Watch as we get raw and have a real conversation about it.
Would You Marry Someone Who Makes Half Your Income? | Marriage, Money, Gender Roles & Financial Expectations In Episode 4 of I Say All That To Say, Terrell and Brooke ask a question that sounds simple until it becomes real: Would you marry someone who makes half your income? This conversation goes beyond salary. Terrell and Brooke discuss income gaps in marriage, women becoming primary breadwinners, gender roles, ambition, attraction, divorce, household responsibilities, financial decision-making, and the money conversations couples need to have before marriage. They also unpack whether the answer changes depending on age, gender, life stage, emotional support, and whether love is enough when the financial reality gets difficult. In this episode, we discuss: Would you marry someone who makes half your income? Does your answer change if the man or woman makes less? Are women becoming the financial leaders in more households? Does income affect attraction? Is ambition more important than current salary? Should couples disclose salaries and debt before engagement? Should the person who earns more make the financial decisions? How should couples divide housework when one person earns more? Can resentment build when one spouse carries more of the burden? Is love enough without financial compatibility? This conversation is about more than money. It is about expectations, ego, partnership, honesty, and the real conversations that can make or break a marriage. How would you answer the question? Would you marry someone who makes half your income? Like, comment, subscribe, and check out I Say All That To Say wherever you listen to podcasts.
In Episode 3 of I Say All That To Say, Terrell and Brooke take on one of the most controversial questions couples can ask: Is marriage just a financial contract in disguise? What begins as a discussion about the historical purpose of marriage quickly turns into a lively debate about love, legal benefits, money, parenting, gender roles, and what really keeps a marriage together over the long term. Then Terrell makes a bold statement that changes the entire conversation: "You can't be broke and married." Is financial stability necessary for a successful marriage? Is love enough to sustain a relationship? Would people still get married if there were no tax advantages, inheritance rights, or legal protections? And should marriages operate more like successful businesses? We also discuss: • Whether marriage is primarily about love, commitment, or financial security • Arranged marriages and the historical purpose of marriage • Would you still get married if there were no legal benefits? • Remarrying after the death of a spouse • Whether successful marriages should function like successful businesses • Division of labor, emotional labor, and parenting responsibilities • Why couples disagree about chores and household expectations • The role finances play in marital conflict • Separate accounts, joint accounts, and allowance systems for married couples • If investment gains and lottery winnings should be shared in a marriage This episode isn't about deciding who is right. It's about exploring the difficult conversations many couples avoid and discovering how our beliefs about money and relationships shape the way we love. Can two broke people build a successful marriage? Let us know in the comments. 👇 Join the conversation: Would you marry someone if there were no legal benefits attached to marriage? Do successful marriages operate more like families or businesses? Should married couples have separate spending accounts?
In Episode 2 of I Say All That To Say, Terrell and Brooke tackle a question that affects all of us: How far would you go to get ahead? What starts as a discussion about the controversy surrounding relationship coach and media personality Dr. Cheyenne Bryant quickly evolves into a deeper conversation about ethics, credentials, business, capitalism, and the choices people make in pursuit of success. Is bending the truth ever justified if it helps you achieve your goals? Can you be both successful and ethical in a capitalist society? And what lessons should we be teaching our children about ambition, integrity, and risk? We also discuss: The difference between coaching and licensed mental health professions Why titles and credentials matter Capitalism, wealth, and the pursuit of success Whether public schools are creating workers or independent thinkers Teaching our son about investing, entrepreneurship, and critical thinking The importance of understanding risk and consequences How parents can prepare children for a rapidly changing world This episode is less about having all the answers and more about asking the difficult questions that many people avoid. How far would you go to get ahead? Let us know in the comments. 👇 Join the conversation: Would you ever bend the rules to achieve success? What lessons are you teaching your children about money, ethics, and ambition? 🎙️ Podcast: I Say All That To Say 👥 Hosts: Brooke & Terrell Harris 👍 Like, Comment, and Subscribe