Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

by Amber Akilla

Society & Culture

Season 7

the price of slaying is haters

sometimes you wanting the best for yourself and others, triggers the worst in people you actually care about........... SURPRISE!!!! it definitely surprised me... 1. any relationship context 2. nothing can prepare you 3. keep slaying 4. focus on the incompatibility rather than assigning blame 5. not everyone wants to slay 6. beware of selfish ass hoes 7. their behaviour is a projection 8. internal focus vs external focus, growth vs scarcity mindset 9. accept that you can't change them 10. don't minimise your truth for other people 11. sometimes your bestie is your #1 hater 12. some people are delusional to the point of detriment 13. slay requires sacrifice 14. nostalgia contributes no value to your future 15. sometimes its just your threatening aura 16. your new life will cost you your old one 17. reflect and revise 18. stay vigilant subscribe for exclusive podcast episodes ♡ https://patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

things i learnt about friendship in my 20s

slive slaugh slove slearn and slay ! let me know your thoughts, feelings and lessons on friendship in the comments!! 1. better to have no friends than bad friends 2. define your inner and outer circle 3. drifting isn’t a bad thing 4. your friends are not your therapist, you are not your friends’ therapist 5. your friends are your cheerleaders 6. you can’t save other people from their bad decisions 7. shared values over shared interests 8. you don’t have to be friends with everyone 9. be wary of those you connect with in a flop era 10. how somone treats you is how they treat everyone 11. are you taking about them more than you talk TO them? 12. if its broken let it break 13. slay together, don’t suffer together subscribe to friend crush with amber akilla! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

situationships are self harm

2025 only hit me up about the situationships you've ended, not the situationships you're in please & thank you xoxo 1. situationship defined 2. committment from a man is not a prize 3. you’re putting the vibes in jeopardy 4. this is incompatibility not a challenge 5. compatibility is not this hard 6. take yourself seriously 7. your trauma response is not your fault, but it is your responsibility 8. he has no motivation to change, your pain is your motivation 9. self-respect starts from within 10. you’re being anti-feminist against yourself 11. show yourself what committment is 12. you can’t put a relationship on your resume 13. it only gets worse, so get out 14. knowing early is a blessing 15. radically accept your delusion 16. create boundaires, get a hobby, cut contact 17. get real with yourself 18. do it for your fellow woman 19. you lack congruence between what you want and how you act subscribe to my podcast! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

how to start new habits when your brain is mush

some thoughts and suggestions on habits that worked for me in my darkest most flop hour... lay the foundation for your next slay, today!!!!!! downloadable / printable trackers here: https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle 1. 1% rule 2. visualise your brain garden 3. habit replacement 4. gaslight into a slay 5. give yourself a treat 6. rewrite your inner narrative 7. habit tracking 8. vision boarding 9. avoid skipping more than one day in a row 10. set a review date 11. habit stacking subscribe to friend crush with amber akilla! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

how to cure your chronically online clownery

a list of practices and considerations i have used for digital distancing and to manage a healthier relationship with the internet and social media. its really use or be used, so make sure you set boundaries and protect your peace!!! subscribe to friend crush with amber akilla! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

30 things i learnt before 30 pt.2

part two of my 30 things i realised before 30!!! let me know what you thought of this video and if you have any specific topic requests~~ ⁠ subscribe to friend crush with amber akilla ☆ https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla notes: 16. you’ll rarely regret sitting on a purchase, but you’ll probably regret impulse buying 17. when in doubt, always play the long game - conflict 18. actions speak louder than words - make sure you have congruence between your own words and actions so you can vett other people 19. being single and learning to be ok alone is better than being in a shitty relationship 20. you are the sum of the people you surround yourself with - choose carefully - don't care what people think of you in the pursuit of what you love, but don't let your reputation precede you. 21. getting paid more doesnt mean the job itself is more intersting or fulfilling - make sure the extra money you make is spent on things/experiences/people you care about 22. just because you’ve finished formal education, doesn't mean the learning has stopped - its just begun! 23. the only way out is through - discomfort in growth and discipline are required - you cant buy your way into discipline or a better life 24. health is wealth - push yourself but know where the line is 25. familiarise yourself with rejection and failure - its not the absence of these things, its the ability to manage 26. how you think and speak to or about yourself is louder than what anyone else says to you 27. building anything on your own is going to take much longer than just attaching yourself to what already exists but its worth it 28. consult multiple sources don't take advice from anyone you don't consider aspirational, inspirational 29. GATEKEEP your time, energy and body 30. be hot & have fun

30 things i learnt before 30 pt.1

sliving my slife ☆ subscribe to friend crush with amber akilla ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla 1. an authentic life is better than a conventional one 2. embrace your curiosity and your interests 3. the four agreements 4. learn about psychology before getting into political debates 5. learn to emotionally regulate 6. embrace the light and dark - after every flop comes a slay 7. disagreement is ok, dismissal is not 8. other people’s problem with you, is not your problem 9. your new life will cost you your old one 10. nothing is as certain as it seems - leave room for the unexpected 11. talent is worthless without discipline 12. beauty is worthless without brains 13. empathy is worthless without boundaries 14. when people tell you who they are, believe them or at least make a note 15. connection/chemistry cannot trump compatibility and communication

how to be confident & unbothered

hope this helps ^_^ 1. you are bored 1.1 get a life 1.2 find purpose 1.3 80/20 rule 1.4 exercise free will 1.5 get a hobby 1.6 enjoy your life 2. you are a hater 2.1 judgement others & yourself 2.2 work with what you got 2.3 managing insecurity 2.3.1 journalling 2.3.2 personal jokes 2.3.3 #BEREAL 2.4 encourage others 2.5 redefine success 2.6 limit exposure to negativity bonus: people pleasing finale: we’re all gonna die subscribe to friend crush for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

do what you enjoy

guys my video didnt record, please forgive me. we will do better next time :~) anyways lets talk about the importance of doing what you enjoy for self empowerment and understanding. building awareness around how we feel and what we think in order to be hot and have fun yay!! subscribe to my podcast for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

the disrespect is the closure

recent thoughts on closure and the illusion that an another person can give it to you. how can we think about overwhelming emotional experiences and 'closure' in a way that allows us to move forward in healthy and productive ways that facilitate a life of being hot and having fun?? subscribe to the podcast for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

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