Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

by Amber Akilla

Society & Culture

Season 3

37 - skincare

discussing how my approach to skincare has changed - kind of like a metaphor to how my approach to life and things have changed too! i start with what it was like when i had 'problematic' skin, non-product related changes that i keep in mind and my general mindset to skincare now and what i've done to improve my skin in the last few years. a reminder that your self-worth and value is not determined by whether you have "good" skin or not!!! your skin is the biggest organ in your body so its worth taking care of though! statistics: https://www.statista.com/statistics/254612/global-skin-care-market-size/ book: The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden https://amzn.to/3D7Dmgx follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

36 - breadcrumbing and orbiting

breadcrumbing and orbiting are being discussed more and more in the context of modern dating and are likened to behaviors like ghosting. what do these behaviours entail and how can we become more aware of what we’re allowing or participating in and whether its inline with what we want from relationships of any kind, not just romantic ones! articles mentioned: https://www.brides.com/what-is-breadcrumbing-5105353 https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a23070110/orbiting-after-breakup-dating-trend book: The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden https://amzn.to/3D7Dmgx twitter thread: https://twitter.com/gaialect/status/1493228285328777222 i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

35 - you are hot and having fun !!!

sharing my current life mantra/philosophy that i use to ground myself during chaotic moments for you to see whether its something you want to adopt or can help you to figure out what might work for you! i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

34 - random thoughts on healing

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33 - hookup culture

an introductory exploration into the history of hookup culture... is it as fun and empowering as we're made to think it is? everyone is different but there are some general trends that studies suggest, let's discuss and explore~ hook up culture wiki https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hookup_culture ana psychology https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pIh8LqU7s-o gatekeeping in casual entanglements https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla/video/7040327202994539777?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id6914680433222862337 i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

32 - training for a breakup

breakups are fucked but i think they create opportunities for us to learn more about ourselves and develop resilience if we choose to see them this way. in this episode i outline 12 different things i try to keep in mind when it comes to break-ups and any major transition periods in my life. i think the key is remembering that appreciating what’s “good”, requires experience of what’s “bad”. an incompatibility with a person or situation doesn’t determine your inherent value and what you can do to re-connect with yourself when you feel overwhelmed. i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

31 - west elm caleb & dating apps

what do we think about the west elm caleb tiktok drama? i care less about the individuals involved and more about the ‘cultural implications’ and discourse surrounding it. if you need context, give it a quick google but i’m sharing my thoughts in this week’s episode! GQ article https://www.gq.com/story/who-is-west-elm-caleb twitter thread mentioned https://twitter.com/mattruby/status/1484583381073600513 follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

30 - any benefit mindset

how can we make sure that we are streamlining our approach to social media, friendships, romance and even our wardrobe so that we can prioritise quality over quantity? i read Cal Newport’s book “Deep Work” in an attempt to learn how to better manage my time but the ‘any benefit mindset’ (also referred to as the 'any benefit principle' in this episode) that he critiques in relation to our approach to social media resonated with me and felt applicable to other areas of life. Deep Work by Cal Newport https://amzn.to/32fjrz4 follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

29 - it's just a little crush!!!

where is the fun in romance? did it catch covid and pass away??? thinking about crushes, how people’s limits differ and how do the traditional values we were raised with indirectly affect the way we approach romance. apologies for the background noise in some sections of this episode!! follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

28 - digital distancing

what’s your relationship with technology like? after noticing my own struggle to stay focused i’ve been trying to find different ways to maintain a sense of mental peace amongst information overload. how does social media impact the brain and what can we do to ensure that we can enjoy the benefits of social media while managing the downsides. Huberman Lab Podcast - Controlling Your Dopamine for Motivation, Focus & Satisfaction https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QmOF0crdyRU The Dangers of Porn Addiction https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7RMGUl_zSc&t=510s follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club

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