Dates that deplete us

In this episode we catch up on recent dates, the awkwardness of dating multiple people at once, the frustration of low-effort messaging, "dry" communication, and sudden ghosting from dates in their 40s.

We discuss why effortless conversation feels so rare, how Dutch dating culture and communication norms compare to other countries, and whether cultural expectations play a role in how men flirt. Finally, we reflect on our personal attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant), exploring how past dynamics, family upbringings, and dating avoidant partners impact how they show up in relationships today.