Hasta La Pasta, Baby

Hasta La Pasta, Baby

Dating in Amsterdam by Skyler & Heidi
S1 · E3
Aug 12, 2026
39:18

Episode notes

You can't reheat a souffle, they say. In this episode we continue our deep dive into avoidant attachment styles, sharing personal stories about exes who resurface long after a breakup.

Heidi reflects on a text from an avoidant ex who reached out right before moving abroad, while Skylar discusses her experience trying to give an ex a second chance, only to watch old patterns repeat themselves at high speed. We discuss why avoidant partners often return only when it feels "safe" or low-risk to their nervous systems.

In the second half, we lighten the mood with a round of rapid-fire dating deal-breakers. We debate body odor and hygiene, financial stability versus ambition, height differences (and the concept of "short kings"), and whether a partner's education level impacts long-term compatibility.

Keywords

Physical attraction
attachment styles
past connections
therapy and self-development
hygiene
compatibility