Episode notes
You can love your kids fiercely and still fantasize about disappearing. You can be obsessed with their little faces and still feel like motherhood robbed you of your own. You can be the soft place they land—and still grieve the you who existed before the role took over.
This episode isn’t about bashing motherhood. It’s about naming the parts of it no one talks about—so you can stop thinking you’re the only one drowning in love, guilt, rage, and grief all at once.
This isn’t a hot take. It’s a love letter to the moms who feel like they’re faking it, surviving it, or silently screaming through it.
You’re not alone. You’re not broken. And you sure as hell don’t have to do this the hard way.
00:01 → Welcome to SHIFT Talking: The Mother's Day episode you didn’t know you needed
01:32 → The guilt, the rage, the whiplash: When you love your kids but hate the job
03:50 → These aren’t just feelings—they’re red flags and sirens. Let’s talk data.
05:35 → You can grieve your old life and love the hell out of your kids
07:12 → What nearly broke me—and what finally helped me put it back together
10:20 → Why I created the Parental SHIFT (and why I’m not shutting up about it)
13:25 → You don’t have to suffer to be worthy. Period.
15:52 → The SHIFT framework: Let’s rebuild your sense of self, one steady shift at a time
19:57 → Final truth: Wanting your own life back doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you ready.
Join the Parental SHIFT if you’re ready to reclaim yourself from the role that was never meant to define all of you.
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