
When Abandonment Becomes a Fear of Losing Yourself
Beneath The Patterns by Fay Chaudhry
S1 · E25
Sep 9, 2026
02:46
Episode notes
What happens when the fear of someone leaving becomes a fear of losing yourself?
Abandonment can shape more than how we relate to others. It can influence how we see our own worth, how much we compromise to keep someone close, and how quickly we question ourselves when a relationship feels uncertain.
In this episode, we explore what can happen when being chosen by someone starts to feel like proof that you are enough — and how healing can begin when you learn that someone leaving does not mean you have to leave yourself behind.
Keywords
relationships
mental health
abandonment
self-worth