So many people ask, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?!” What if attraction isn’t the real issue at all?

In this episode, we unpack a powerful (and often misunderstood) idea: it’s not about who you attract—it’s about who you give your emotional and relational access to. Drawing from attachment theory, we explore how early experiences quietly teach us that connection is earned through availability, emotional labor, proximity, or overfunctioning—and how those patterns can lead to relationships in which your access is taken for granted or even exploited.