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Parenting Together Apart Podcast

Parenting Together Apart Podcast

by Ellie Lemons and Monique Barry

Self-Improvement Parenting Relationships

Season 1

Things That Are Hard But Get Easier

Last episode for the season!! This episode we share our thoughts on all the things we found hard when we first separated but got easier over time...owning our co-parenting status and not caring if people didn't understand it, letting go of that "perfect" fantasy of 2.5 children, dating and not having to see your co-parent everyday [or having to see them everyday] all takes some getting used to.... EPISODE RESOURCES Podcast: Circularity - The Redesign of Everything Read: Esther Perel - The State of Affairs : Rethinking Infidelity FOLLOW ALONG Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

Co-Parenting With a Narcissist with Psychotherapist Serafin Upton

On this episode Moni chats with Serafin Upton, a NZ based psychotherapist who specialises in recovering from narcissistic relationships and emotional abuse. She helps us understand narcissistic personality disorder vs narcissistic traits, identify and manage a relationship with a narcissist and how to support and protect your children from narcissistic abuse. EPISODE RESOURCES Read: Mark Ettensohn - Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life Read: Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity : Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Read: Esther Perel - The State of Affairs : Rethinking Infidelity Podcast: Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Podcast Episode: Brené with Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce D. Perry on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing Our Family Wizard App FOLLOW ALONG Serafin Upton's Wesbite: www.serafinupton.co.nz Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

Dad Talk: The Importance of Supporting Your Ex

On this episode Ellie chats with her co-parent Charlie Goldsmith. Hear what Charlie has to say about the importance of respecting and supporting the mother of your child/ren and the positive programming around relationships and communication this can create for them, why it’s better (and easier) to get along, building a community around your child as well as rewriting the narrative that being friends with your ex is “weird”. SHOW LINKS Charlies IG: @charliegoldsmith Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

You Have Children and You're Separating...Now What?

We share some tips for what to do next once the decision to separate has been made when you share children and one or both of you are thinking about how to start the co-parenting journey. Introduction Being clear about the decision to separate Deciding the best living and child-sharing arrangements for your family Managing communication and maintaining privacy Finding a support person in a professional or trusted friend Establishing early boundaries around parental decisions, sex and dating Respecting someone else’s grieving period might be different to yours How to manage your alone time when your child/ren is with the other parent Honouring your feelings and resourcing / supporting yourself through them Disclaimer: This episode is relevant to situations where there are two capable parents and children are safe in each parents hands. SHOW LINKS Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

How To Turn Arguments Into Helpful Discussions

We talk about handling arguments and conflict in your co-parenting / parenting relationship and how to come out of an argument better than when you went in. Introduction Arguments can be a good thing providing awareness about what your wounds are, where expectations aren’t being met or holes in your communication. Arguments vs discussion How attachment styles influence your ability to have hard discussions and handle conflict and knowing your co-parents attachment style is a sign of love. Strategies to help when you’re in the midst of an argument How to recover after an argument so you finish better off, not worse off. SHOW LINKS Book: Attached by Amir Levine HERE Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

Letting Go Of The Stories You’re Telling Yourself

Join Ellie and Monique as they discuss how important letting go of the stories you tell yourself is to your co-parenting journey.⁣ How to identify the difference between what is ACTUALLY happening vs the stories you’re telling yourself about what you THINK is happening.⁣ Why we need to let go of unhelpful stories from our romantic relationships so we can transition into a co-parenting relationship⁣ Common held beliefs such as ‘The white picket fence’ and ‘single mum’ narratives and letting go of years of conditioning and societal expectations around what successful relationships and self-worth looks like.⁣ When two co-parents are stuck in their stories and no-one is willing to budge. At home practices to help you rewrite the stories you tell yourself⁣ ⁣ SHOW LINKS 5 Journaling prompts to help rewrite unhelpful stories HERE⁣ Ted Talk: How to Get Your Brain to Focus by Chris Bailey HERE⁣⁣ Subscribe to the Holistic Psychologist's newsletter for her free future self journal⁣ Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

5 Principles for Successful Co-Parenting

We share 5 principles that we believe form a healthy co-parenting relationship including practical tips and tools you can implement and practice in your life. Rule 1: Respect and how to be considerate of differing needs, feelings, experiences or expectations. Rule 2: Avoiding exposing children to parental conflict Teaching kids that not all romantic relationships work out and creating a new narrative around navigation relationships and separation. Rule 3: Willingness to do self-work Daily practices you could incorporate to help you do self-work Rule 4: Check in with your kids frequently Tips to help teach your kids how to express their emotions Rule 5: Determined shared parenting values and goals SHOW LINKS See the Parenting Triangle on Instagram HERE Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_

Welcome to the Together Apart Podcast.

We are Ellie Lemons and Monique Barry and our podcast Parenting Together Apart is a resource for co-parents, by co-parents. We share our co-parenting / co-living journeys and our intentions for this resource. Who is Together Apart for? Defining co-parenting 3:12 Ellie’s co-parenting story The timeline of the co-parenting journey and where we are now is not where we started Monique’s co-parenting story Taking responsibility for our healing and taking a child centred approach to parenting after separation Questioning the stories you tell yourself about what breakups look like Show Links Our Website: www.togetherapartpodcast.com⁣ Find us on IG: @parentingtogetherapart⁣ Follow Ellie: @ellielemons⁣ Follow Moni: @moniquebarry_