Our first sex-club weekend is almost here.

Before heading to Toronto for the Naughty Gym takeover, we sat down separately to answer the questions about what we want, what scares us, what feels exciting, and what might still be too far. Then we shared our answers with each other for the first time.

We talk through why we are going, what would make the weekend feel successful, and what we are each hoping to learn about ourselves. We also get specific about flirting, nudity, public sex, parallel play, soft swap, watching each other interact with other people, and the line between curiosity and readiness.

The biggest surprise was not how different our answers were. It was how closely they aligned.

This is less a list of what is “allowed” and more a protocol for protecting our relationship while giving ...