Most of us have been around someone who makes every conversation about themselves, reacts before thinking, and never seems to notice the effect they have on others. And most of us have, at some point, been that person without realizing it.

In this episode, I draw a clear line between self-absorption and self-awareness, and I want to be upfront about what this episode is not. It is not about narcissism. Narcissism is a clinical personality disorder. This is about the rest of us, the patterns we fall into, the blind spots we carry, and whether we have the capacity to change them.

I open with an overheard conversation at a golf course, where four men declared that women need therapy more than men, right before revealing they had all been in therapy themselves. That contradiction is exactly where this episode begins.