The Men's Lounge LA

The Men's Lounge LA

by Sir Frederick & Coach Chriss
Self-ImprovementParenting
Season 1

Divorce: "IS THE MARRIAGE WORTH SAVING"

DIVORCE: IS THE MARRIAGE WORTH SAVING? | The Men's Lounge LA Welcome back to The Men's Lounge LA, where we are committed to: Empowering Men • Strengthening Families • Transforming Lives Today, Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss tackle one of the most emotional, painful, and misunderstood topics affecting modern families: DIVORCE. This conversation is not about blaming men. It's not about blaming women. It's about understanding why marriages succeed, why marriages fail, and what we can learn to strengthen relationships before they reach the breaking point. In this episode we discuss: ✔ Why people divorce ✔ The rise of Gray Divorce (50+) ✔ Why many men say, "I never saw it coming" ✔ The emotional and financial cost of divorce ✔ Marriage vs. having the right relationship ✔ How men choose relationships ✔ A man's true value beyond money and status ✔ Whether a marriage is actually worth saving DID YOU KNOW? • Research found that approximately 69% of divorces are initiated by women and 31% by men. • More than one-third of divorces today involve adults age 50 and older. • The U.S. recorded over 672,000 divorces in the most recent CDC reporting year. One of the most powerful statements from today's show: "The divorce papers didn't end the marriage. The marriage ended long before the papers arrived. The papers simply announced it." QUESTION FOR THE AUDIENCE: If your spouse sat beside you today, would they describe your relationship as: 🔹 Thriving? 🔹 Surviving? 🔹 Silently Dying? Share your thoughts in the comments below. SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE: CDC Marriage & Divorce Statistics: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/marriage-divorce.htm National Center for Family & Marriage Research: https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/resources-by-topic/gray-divorce.html Gray Divorce Research: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9434459/ Stanford Research on Divorce Initiation: https://www.asanet.org/women-more-likely-men-initiate-divorces-not-non-marital-breakups/ 👍 Like 💬 Comment 🔔 Subscribe 📢 Share NEXT EPISODE: CHILD SUPPORT: SUPPORTING THE CHILD OR DIVIDING THE FAMILY? #Divorce #Marriage #Relationships #MensMentalHealth #Fatherhood #MensLoungeLA #RealTalkMen #MarriageAdvice #Family #GrayDivorce #ChildSupport #PersonalGrowth
S1 · E7
Jul 10, 2026
1:00:38

Support or Abandonment?

We'd love to get your thoughts on Child Support or Child Abandonment. Interview w/TK Kirkland: https://youtu.be/-mlLib_LVOI?si=QWU__LcAY3pFNInG Panelist/Guest: Lisa O. and Ray Stormbreaker. Welcome to The Men’s Lounge L.A. Content That Matters We're a channel that Empowers Men. And our mission is simple: We empower good men to become greater men. We empower men to embrace their masculinity and humanity… And yes — we celebrate and acknowledge the women, because without their presence and perspective, we wouldn’t be balanced as men or as a community.
S1 · E6
Jul 6, 2026
1:29:12

Protection From Abuse - And Use 2026

#youtube #support Interview with Ulysses "Butch Slaughter, a man who was wrongfully accused of abusing his ex-wife. Hear his story and account of him going through the process of clearing his name within the court system due to his ex-wife filing a PFA (Protection From Abuse) also known as a Restraining Order. Hosted by: Sir Frederick and Coach Chriss Special Guest: Ulysses "Butch" Slaughter Dimming The Gaslight Episode #78 on spotify
S1 · E5
Jul 3, 2026
1:13:28

Daddy Talks:THE TRUTH MOST MEN NEVER TALK ABOUT

DADDY TALKS: https://a.co/d/00XiARHa DADDY ISSUES: https://a.co/d/0aKhJwzg MOMMY TALKS: https://a.co/d/0hLpRDBN https://www.facebook.com/TheFatherhoodMovement https://www.facebook.com/share/14hCq5QJ3aZ/ www.kfcchurch.org for the book PastorSanders402@yahoo.com In this powerful episode of The Men’s Lounge LA, we sit down with author, pastor, mentor, and community leader Tony E. Sanders, Jr. for an honest conversation about fatherhood, masculinity, healing, and breaking generational cycles. Tony opens up about: • Growing up without a consistent father figure • Visiting his father in prison as a child • Carrying the weight of his father’s name • Learning masculinity without a blueprint • Forgiveness, healing, and breaking silence • Becoming a husband and father despite what he didn’t have growing up We also discuss the emotional and spiritual impact of what many call “Daddy Issues” — and how unresolved father wounds affect identity, relationships, and manhood. This episode is for: • Fatherless sons • Fathers trying to do better • Men searching for healing • Women seeking understanding • And anyone trying to break unhealthy cycles Right now in America, nearly 1 in 4 children grow up without a father in the home. Conversations like this matter. 💬 QUESTION: What does “breaking the cycle” mean to you? Drop your thoughts in the comments. 👍 LIKE 🔔 SUBSCRIBE 💬 COMMENT Your voice helps these conversations reach the next man who may be suffering in silence. 📩 Interested in our live Men’s Group in Pasadena? Email: info@themensloungela.com The Men’s Lounge LA Empowering Men • Strengthening Families • Transforming Lives #Fatherhood #MensMentalHealth #DaddyIssues #Masculinity #TheMensLoungeLA #Healing #Podcast
S1 · E4
Jun 27, 2026
1:21:46

A Daughter's Perspective

Truth, Identity & Fatherhood #youtube What happens when a medical diagnosis uncovers a family truth hidden for 35 years? In this emotionally powerful episode of The Men’s Lounge LA, we explore Finding Father’s: A Daughter’s Perspective — a raw and honest conversation about fatherhood, identity, and accountability. Breona, a 38-year-old woman, discovers during pregnancy that she carries BETA THALASSEMIA, a genetic blood trait. What begins as a health concern becomes a life-altering revelation: the father who raised her is not her biological father. Enter Brian — her biological father — through an unexpected turn of events, forcing both to confront the past, the present, and the possibility of a future relationship. This episode dives into: • The emotional impact of discovering your biological father later in life • The difference between biological fatherhood and present fatherhood • Accountability, healing, and identity • The role fathers play in shaping balanced homes and strong families This isn’t a story about blame — it’s about truth. It’s about showing up. And it’s about redefining what fatherhood means at every stage of life. 👇 Join the conversation Subscribe | Like | Share | Comment 📍 Follow The Men’s Lounge LA Empowering men to become greater men. DNA RESOURCES: https://www.crigenetics.com https://www.ancestry.com https://geneticsdigest.com/best_ancestry_genealogy_dna_test/myheritage.html PEOPLE FINDER: https://www.fastpeoplesearch.com/ https://tracking.truthfinder.com https://www.beenverified.com
S1 · E3
Jun 25, 2026
1:38:26

Our Dad raised us without a Blueprint

What happens when a boy grows up without a father… but chooses to become one anyway? In this special behind-the-scenes conversation from The Men’s Lounge LA, Nathan and Andrew sit down for an intimate meet & greet to reflect on their father, Coach Chriss, a man who grew up fatherless but intentionally chose a different path when raising his own sons. In this conversation they open up about: • What it was like growing up with their dad • Memorable moments from childhood • The impact of their parents’ divorce • Whether they ever felt abandoned • How their father shaped their view of masculinity and responsibility • What lessons they carry forward into their own lives This discussion is part of our upcoming episode: Finding Fathers EP2: A Son’s Quest Soon to be Released this March 2026 In that episode, Coach Chriss shares the story of searching 42 years for the father he never met, and the unexpected journey that followed. Sometimes the story isn’t just about finding your father. Sometimes it’s about becoming the father you never had. 🎙 The Men’s Lounge LA is a men’s empowerment platform having honest conversations about: • Fatherhood • Relationships • Divorce • Mental health • Mentorship • Identity and masculinity Watch the full Finding Fathers series and subscribe for upcoming episodes. Subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/@themensloungela Follow The Men’s Lounge LA: Website: themensloungela.com
S1 · E2
Jun 22, 2026
1:07:00

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Deciding When a Co-Parenting Relationship Is Beyond Repair

Bonus
Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is choose peace over staying in a war zone—even when that war zone is your home.” – Unknown visit for more: https://detroitbodymindsoul.com/ Hey friend, let’s talk about something heavy that’s been sitting on your heart. You’re lying awake at night asking yourself the same question over and over: “Should I stay for the kids, or is leaving actually better for them?” This decision feels impossible because you love your children more than anything. You don’t want to hurt them. You don’t want to be the reason their family breaks apart. But here’s what nobody talks about: staying in a broken relationship might be hurting them more than leaving ever could. Here’s What Staying Teaches Your Kids. When you stay in a relationship filled with anger, silence, or constant fighting, your kids are watching. They’re learning what love looks like. They’re learning how people should treat each other. Do you want them to think love means walking on eggshells? Do you want them to accept being disrespected in their future relationships? Kids are smart. They feel the tension even when you think you’re hiding it. That fake smile at dinner? They see through it. Let’s Look at What Leaving Can Teach Your Kids. Leaving a toxic relationship shows your children something powerful. It teaches them that they deserve respect. It shows them that it’s okay to choose peace over chaos. Two happy homes are better than one miserable house. When you choose your mental health, you’re not being selfish. You’re showing your kids that their well-being matters too. You’re teaching them that sometimes the hardest choice is the right choice. Here’s how to know if it’s time to go: Have you tried everything to fix this? (Counseling, honest conversations, setting boundaries?) Is there abuse—physical, emotional, or verbal? Are you becoming someone you don’t recognize? Do your kids seem anxious or scared at home? Has your partner refused to work on the relationship? If you answered yes to most of these questions, your heart already knows the answer. Keep in Mind, You’re Not Alone in This. There are numerous parents making this same impossible choice. Some stay. Some go. There’s no perfect answer that works for everyone. But here’s what I know for sure: your kids need a healthy parent more than they need an unhappy family staying together. You deserve peace. Your children deserve to see what healthy love looks like—even if that means two separate homes where everyone can finally breathe. Your Action Step for Today Get a notebook. At the top of one page write “Reasons to Stay.” On another page write “Reasons to Go.” But here’s the important part: under each reason, write how it affects your children specifically. Not just you. Not what other people think. Focus on your kids’ well-being. Be honest. This is just for you. Nobody else will see it. This exercise helps you see the truth clearly. Sometimes we need to get our thoughts out of our heads and onto paper to really understand what our hearts already know. You’ve got this, and you’re not walking this path alone. - Detroit
S1
Oct 6, 2026
3:16

Is Masculinity Dead? (Pt.3) Live from Chicago. #masculinity

IS MASCULINITY DEAD?!?!?! (Pt.3) #selfimprovement #lifelessons #manhood #selfgrowth The Men’s Lounge LA is on the road in Chicago — The Chi — with comedian D. Patrick and Ray “The StormBreaker” Gage for a raw, unscripted conversation about manhood, responsibility, strength, vulnerability, culture, and what masculinity looks like today. This is not a rehearsed panel. Comedian D.Patrick and Ray did not receive the questions in advance. We challenge the usual definitions of masculinity, ask whether men are becoming weaker or simply being challenged to grow, and confront the role of fathers, culture, Hollywood, emotional discipline, accountability, and purpose. We also ask the harder question: Are men losing masculinity — or losing direction? Expect humor. Expect disagreement. Expect hard questions. Expect accountability. And at the end, every man has to answer: Is masculinity dead, dying, evolving, confused — or alive and well? Join the conversation in the comments and tell us where you stand. The Men’s Lounge LA — empowering good men to become better men, strengthening families, transforming lives, with content that matters. ### CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS Comedian D. Patrick https://www.facebook.com/devonpthegod The Truf Bros / Speak Your Truf Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/325724678963567/ The Truf Bros Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/Trufbros Ray Stormbreaker is a father entrepreneur, a communications engineer and former Marine and one half of Truf Bros Productions. He's is a combat veteran who believes in freedom, justice and equality for everyone. "We are all capable of being more than we are." #TheMensLoungeLA #IsMasculinityDead #Masculinity #MensPodcast #Manhood #MaleEmpowerment #Brotherhood #Fatherhood #MensMentalHealth #Chicago #TheChi #Accountability #Purpose # The Men's Lounge LA ### Content That Matters Welcome to The Men's Lounge LA. We are a media platform dedicated to empowering men, strengthening families, and transforming lives through authentic conversations, practical solutions, and meaningful content. Our mission is simple: We empower good men to become greater men. We encourage men to embrace both their masculinity and their humanity while pursuing leadership, accountability, purpose, faith, and personal growth. Our content explores: Fatherhood Relationships Leadership Personal Development Veterans Issues Mental Health Faith Community Impact Special Needs & Autism Awareness We believe strong men help build strong families, strong communities, and a stronger society. We also recognize and celebrate the important role women play in our lives and communities. Their perspective helps create the balance necessary for healthy relationships, families, and growth. Every episode is designed to educate, encourage, challenge, or inspire. Because when we empower men... *Everyone benefits.** ### The Men's Lounge LA **Empowering Men • Strengthening Families • Transforming Lives* #menssupport #fatherhood #dadlifematters #selfgrowth #mentorship
S1
Oct 1, 2026
43:00

Is Masculinity Dead? (Pt.2 ) Live from Chicago. #masculinity

IS MASCULINITY DEAD?!?!?! (Pt.2) #selfimprovement #lifelessons #manhood #selfgrowth The Men’s Lounge LA is on the road in Chicago — The Chi — with comedian D. Patrick and Ray “The StormBreaker” Gage for a raw, unscripted conversation about manhood, responsibility, strength, vulnerability, culture, and what masculinity looks like today. This is not a rehearsed panel. Comedian D.Patrick and Ray did not receive the questions in advance. We challenge the usual definitions of masculinity, ask whether men are becoming weaker or simply being challenged to grow, and confront the role of fathers, culture, Hollywood, emotional discipline, accountability, and purpose. We also ask the harder question: Are men losing masculinity — or losing direction? Expect humor. Expect disagreement. Expect hard questions. Expect accountability. And at the end, every man has to answer: Is masculinity dead, dying, evolving, confused — or alive and well? Join the conversation in the comments and tell us where you stand. The Men’s Lounge LA — empowering good men to become better men, strengthening families, transforming lives, with content that matters. ### CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS Comedian D. Patrick https://www.facebook.com/devonpthegod The Truf Bros / Speak Your Truf Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/325724678963567/ The Truf Bros Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/Trufbros Ray Stormbreaker is a father entrepreneur, a communications engineer and former Marine and one half of Truf Bros Productions. He's is a combat veteran who believes in freedom, justice and equality for everyone. "We are all capable of being more than we are." #TheMensLoungeLA #IsMasculinityDead #Masculinity #MensPodcast #Manhood #MaleEmpowerment #Brotherhood #Fatherhood #MensMentalHealth #Chicago #TheChi #Accountability #Purpose # The Men's Lounge LA ### Content That Matters Welcome to The Men's Lounge LA. We are a media platform dedicated to empowering men, strengthening families, and transforming lives through authentic conversations, practical solutions, and meaningful content. Our mission is simple: We empower good men to become greater men. We encourage men to embrace both their masculinity and their humanity while pursuing leadership, accountability, purpose, faith, and personal growth. Our content explores: Fatherhood Relationships Leadership Personal Development Veterans Issues Mental Health Faith Community Impact Special Needs & Autism Awareness We believe strong men help build strong families, strong communities, and a stronger society. We also recognize and celebrate the important role women play in our lives and communities. Their perspective helps create the balance necessary for healthy relationships, families, and growth. Every episode is designed to educate, encourage, challenge, or inspire. Because when we empower men... *Everyone benefits.** ### The Men's Lounge LA Empowering Men • Strengthening Families • Transforming Lives #masculinity #menssupport #youtube #lifelessons #selfimprovement 0:00 Masculine moments with family 2:30 Defining masculine protection 6:10 Toxic versus disciplined men 9:30 Gender roles and independence 14:31 Resourcefulness as manhood 17:25 Transactional relationships 21:01 Promotion of Speak Your Truth 22:48 Violence and restraint 27:06 The threat of buried emotions 32:51 Masculinity and femininity
S1
Sep 24, 2026
39:05

April 20, 2026 People-Pleasing Is a Trap: When You Can’t Say No, You Can’t Build a Winning Life

Bonus
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.” — Warren Buffett Visit the full episode here: https://detroitbodymindsoul.com/meditations/april-20-2026 Some of the kindest people I know are also the most tired. They say yes to everything. They show up for everybody. They answer every call. They fix every problem. They carry other people’s feelings like they’re getting paid to do it. But behind that kindness is often a quiet fear: “If I say no, they’ll be mad.” “If I disappoint them, they’ll leave.” “If I don’t help, I’m not a good person.” Let me tell you the truth in a caring voice and a straight tone: You can be a good person and still have boundaries. If you can’t say no, your yes isn’t really love. It’s fear wearing a friendly hat. And the cost is high. People-pleasing steals your time, your energy, and your focus. It crowds out your goals. It drains your joy. It even creates resentment—because deep down you know you’re over-giving, but you don’t know how to stop. Here’s the key: saying no is not rejecting people. It’s protecting purpose. And the people who truly love you will adjust. They won’t punish you for having a limit. If they only like you when you’re useful, that’s not love—that’s a transaction. A winning life requires choices. And choices require courage. Every time you say yes to something that doesn’t fit your priorities, you are saying no to something that does—your rest, your family, your peace, your progress. You don’t need a longer explanation. You need a stronger spine. Short “no” sentences can change your whole life: “I can’t this week.” “That doesn’t work for me.” “I’m not available.” “I can help, but not today.” “Let me think about it.” (This one is powerful. It buys you time.) Action Step: This week, practice one “clean no.” Pick one request you normally would accept out of guilt and respond with a short, kind boundary. No long speech. No apologies marathon. Just calm truth. Then use the time you saved on something that actually builds your winning life. © 2026 Detroit Flanagan All rights reserved
S1
Aug 25, 2026
2:14
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