First let’s look at typical advice people give about dealing with bullies.

It’s great to know how to reframe advice to make it work for you.

Here’s how you’ll be advised to do by a simple internet search:

1. Tell a trusted adult. ...
2. Ignore the bully and walk away. ...
3. Walk tall and hold your head high. ...
4. Don't get physical. ...
5. Try to talk to the bully. ...
6. Practice confidence. ...
7. Talk about it. ...
8. Find your (true) friends.

All good advice, but only if you reframe it to your best advantage. Here’s how:

1. Tell a trusted adult—telling a trusted adult is great for support and ideas, but they cannot face the bully for you.
2. Ignore the bully and walk away—this means ignore what the bully wants you to do, what they shame or scare you into, and d ...