Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

by Nate Crandall and Steve Galley

Self-Improvement Parenting

RECRUITING made SIMPLE! DAVID HITZ of Athlete Narrative

Whooa parents! Here's a must listen if you want to simplify the complexities of the recruiting process for your young athlete! David Hitz and Athlete Narrative to your rescue!! Let's get real and learn the importance and best practices of personal branding, your role as a Most Valuable Parent, and how technology can become your athlete's trusted guide in recruitment. Tune is as we engage with David and discuss the common mistakes parents and athletes are making in their efforts to reach out to coaches and colleges! Listen to some success stories that inspire hope for your young athlete! And to make it all even more amazing, learn how EXTREMELY affordable this is for YOU and the masses! Athlete Narrative is changing the recruiting game one athlete at a time! The Timestamps! 00:00 Introduction to Athlete Narrative 04:05 Simplifying the Recruiting Process 08:36 The Importance of Finding Opportunities 11:36 The Numbers Game in Recruiting 13:02 Affordable Solutions for Families 13:51 When to Start the Recruiting Process 15:11 Parental Involvement in Branding 17:17 Signing Up for Athlete Narrative 19:26 Building Your Radar Page 21:15 Emailing Coaches Effectively 22:43 Navigating the Conversation: Technical Challenges and Solutions 23:33 Exploring Personal Branding and NIL in Sports 23:54 The Role of Coaches in Athlete Recruitment 24:53 Simplifying the Recruitment Process for Coaches 26:50 Common Mistakes Parents Make in Recruitment 28:08 The Evolution of Recruitment Strategies 30:46 Affordable Solutions for Aspiring Athletes 33:29 The Importance of Hope in Recruitment 38:07 Success Stories: Real Impact of the Service 42:43 Connecting with Athlete Narrative: Final Thoughts Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! -Nate & Steve

PARENTS: What is YOUR WHY?!

We’re asking a powerful question: Is "it" optional or essential? What is "it?" Tune it to find out as we explore how the concept of "NECESSITY" can help you lead your teen more effectively, especially if they’re navigating high-stakes performance in sports or the performing arts. You’ll leave with tools that shift your mindset from transactional to transformational and from parenting...to coaching! We’re diving into the deep end of the pool to get a bit uncomfortable. Yep, in the deep water we'll find out how the high performance habit of necessity creates clarity and most importantly, a deeper, better connection with your teen. This episode will challenge and encourage you to rethink what it means to be a high-performing parent. The Timestamps 00:00 Is "it" Optional or Essential? 02:33 Understanding Purpose in Parenting 05:22 Exploring the 'Why' By Going Several Levels Deep 08:25 The Importance of Self-Reflection 11:19 Transformational vs. Transactional Parenting 14:08 The Golden Circle--Simon Sinek 16:40 Practical Exercises for Parents 19:20 Engaging with Your Teen Takeaways -What is really essential? -Understanding your purpose as a parent is crucial. -Courage is needed to confront personal shortcomings. -Focusing on progress (the gain) is important. -The 'why' behind parenting choices shapes actions. -Transformational parenting builds deeper connections. -Transactional parenting can create pressure on children. -Going several "levels deep with 'why' questions leads to deeper insights. -Engaging with your child's perspective is valuable. -Self-awareness enhances parenting effectiveness. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

PARENTS: How Do You GENERATE Energy?

If you're serious about high performance—not just for your teen, but for yourself as a parent, this conversation may be your wake-up call. We dive head first into the real reason our communication and connection with our teens often falls flat: low energy. There are some simple and strategic ways to turn this around! Walk with us in this discussion on how we can better generate energy. That's right. We have the power (pun fully intended) to create energy rather than viewing it as a supply we have no control over. We touch on the four pillars that affect how you show up—sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental wellness—and how you can take simple steps to bring your best energy every day. Let's go moms and dads. We can win at work and at home! The Timestamps! 00:00 "Leftovers" and Parenting Dynamics 02:27 Energy Management for Parents 05:00 The 4 Energy Pillars 08:11 Practical Strategies for Generating Energy 10:58 The Energy Connection 14:04 Showing up Better 16:55 Energy Audits and Self-Management 19:36 Simple Strategies for Parents 22:30 Awareness of our Energy Levels Takeaways -Leftovers can be a metaphor for the energy parents have left to give their teens. -Energy management is crucial for effective parenting and leadership. -The four pillars of energy are sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental wellness. -Simple strategies can help parents manage their energy better. -"Release tension and set intention" to prep for better interactions. -Awareness of energy levels is key to improvement. -Small tweaks can lead to significant changes in energy production. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Let's DEMONSTRATE Courage!

If you're a high-performing parent trying to raise a high-performing teen, you know this already—it takes courage. Not always the “run-into-the-fire” kind, but the quiet, everyday kind: letting go of control, staying consistent, and having the hard conversations. In our milestone 100th episode, we celebrate YOU—the brave moms and dads who courageously shift from parenting to coaching on your quest to create magical relationships with your teens! Sure, we're pumped we've published content for you every Monday for 100 weeks, but what we're most excited about is you and teaming with you to elevate your performance. Here are a few questions to further help you level up your bravery as a parent: How can you demonstrate quiet courage on a consistent basis? What do courageous parents do that others don’t? What does "brave parenting" look like to you? Gold Nugget Timestamps 00:00 The Courage to Let Go 02:39 Celebrating Parenting and Milestones 05:51 The Journey to 100 Episodes 08:35 Understanding Courage in Parenting 11:36 Courage in Everyday Actions 14:27 Defining Courage: What It Is and Isn't 16:14 The Impact of Small Acts of Courage 19:03 Questions to Foster Courage in Parenting 21:55 Demonstrating Courage Together Takeaways -Courage in parenting involves letting go of control as children grow. -Happy BELATED Mother's Day and Happy Father's Day! -Our journey to 100 episodes required commitment and courage. -Courage is often found in small, consistent actions. -Asking for help is a courageous act, especially for single parents. -The parent-child relationship is argubly the most important one in society. -Parents should reflect on their actions and how you can step up more. -Defining what brave parenting looks like is a coaching supermove. -Recognizing and counting wins as a parent helps build confidence. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

EP 99: PARENTS: Are You Willing to Go First?!

Going first can be scary! But, your teen is watching. If you’ve ever wished your teen would just change their attitude, their habits, or their mindset—this episode flips that desire on its head. We unpack the powerful metaphor of the "first penguin" and challenge you to step up and model the behaviors you want to see from your teen athlete or performer. From emotional resilience to authenticity, this episode dives deep into why going first isn't just brave—it's necessary. Are you ready to be the first penguin? Let's gooooooooooo! The Timestamps! 00:00 The First Penguin Dilemma 02:16 Modeling Behavior as Parents 05:02 The Importance of Authenticity 08:04 Going First in Emotional Regulation 10:54 The Shift to Coaching from Parenting 14:05 The 2 Big Coaching Stoppers 16:36 Powerful First Penguin Questions Takeaways -The first penguin metaphor illustrates the fear of being first in challenging situations. -Parents must model emotional resilience for their teens. -Teens are adept at detecting inauthenticity in adults. -Modeling behavior is crucial for teaching teens about habits and attitudes. -Parents should be conscious of their actions--you are always being observed by your teens. -Going first as a parent can lead to meaningful conversations about struggles and growth. -Parents should seek coaching and show their willingness to learn to set an example for their teens. -Overcoming personal barriers to change is essential for effective parenting. -Asking for feedback can help you identify areas for improvement. -It all starts with parents modeling changes. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Are You Clear or Confused?

Parents, what is the #1 High Performance Habit? Where does it all start? it’s time to swap confusion for clarity. Ah, clarity! In this powerful episode, we unpack the King of the High Performance Habits: CLARITY. This isn’t just a concept—it’s a parenting and coaching superpower and one you've gotta get right if you want to improve your own performance and that of your teen. Let's get crystal clear on this. Ready? Let's gooooooooo! The Timestamps! 00:00 Understanding How our Own Uncertainty Affects Teen Growth 02:43 Clarity-- Is it a Destination? 04:59 Questions for Parents to Foster Clarity 07:35 Practical Tips for Achieving Clarity 10:03 Seeking Clarity as a Family 13:06 The Journey of Clarity and Continuous Improvement Gold Nuggets Uncertainty as parents can limit a teen's growth. Clarity is essential for high performance. Parents should identify their core values, vision and roles. Clarity is a continuous process, not a destination. Creating family clarity fosters better relationships. Regular check-ins on clarity are beneficial. Clarity leads to increased happiness and confidence. Engaging in family discussions about values creates clarity. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

Leadership Lessons with Legendary COACH JIM JOHNSON

Discover how leadership, love, and trust transformed an autistic teen’s life, and how it can change yours and your most important relationships! Parents, this episode is a Can't Miss, Don't Miss opportunity! Coach Jim Johnson doesn’t just talk about winning, he talks about leading with heart and he walks that walk in his own life! Coach's story of the miracle that took place on February 15th, 2006 in Rochester, New York is nothing short of stunning. On that night Jason McElwain ("J-Mac"), a young autistic team manager made sports history. And J-Mac's story is more than inspirational—it’s a lesson in what happens when we lead with love, build trust, and coach instead of control. This conversation will move you to connect more deeply with your teen, which is not always an easy task! Let’s be real: parenting a teen athlete or performer can feel like walking a tightrope. But what if the key isn’t more discipline—it’s more coaching? What if you became a better leader? Beyond the J-Mac story, Coach Johnson shares the 7 leadership principles that he has developed over his legendary career. He continues sharing this wisdom today in his books, his motivational keynote speeches, his podcast, and his everyday conversations with people everywhere. Let's go!! It is time for LESSONS with the incomparable Coach Jim Johnson. The Timestamps! 00:00 The Journey of Coach Jim Johnson 11:24 The J-Mac Miracle Story 18:27 Leadership Lessons from Coaching 19:27 Embracing Vulnerability in Leadership 20:27 The Power of Team Unity 21:53 A Memorable Senior Night 23:40 Jason's Journey to the Spotlight 26:13 The Essence of Teamwork 28:15 Overcoming Challenges and Building Momentum 31:25 Proud Moments in Coaching 33:17 Fostering Connection Over Performance Pressure 36:56 The Art of Questioning in Leadership 44:31 Building Relationships with Parents 47:26 The Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast 51:28 Building Skills and Team Philosophy 51:59 The Seven Keys to Leadership 53:12 Clarifying Vision and Personal Mission 54:33 Building Trust in Leadership 56:23 Creating an Edge and Effective Communication 01:00:27 Leading by Example 01:01:51 The Importance of Servant Leadership 01:02:41 Influential Leadership Books and Their Impact 01:05:16 Key Skills for Emerging Leaders 01:09:16 Advice for Parents of Struggling Athletes Want more from Coach Jim Johnson? Here are a few places you can find him: coachjimjohnson.com The Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast LinkedIn Please SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our YouTube channel is: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! And check out what we're up to at createtransformbecome.com. There you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

EP 96: Parents: Cancel This Contract Now!

Silent contracts filled with expectations usually lead to disappointment and communication breakdowns. This is gonna lead to some "A words!" You know, we could probably name this episode "The A Words!" What "A" words you ask? Agreements (oh yeah, much better!) and Awareness (ok, now we're talking!). In this episode we're going to discuss how to use Awareness so you can cancel those bad silent contracts and more toward creating powerful Agreements! Let's go parents! Let's stop parenting and start coaching!! The Takeaways Silent contracts can create misunderstandings in relationships. Assumptions often lead to negative outcomes in communication. Agreements are more sound than flimsy assumptions. Awareness of past silent contracts can help in parenting. Constant communication is essential for aligning expectations. Parents should ask their teens about their perceived expectations. Effort in communication can save time and reduce guilt when expectations are not met. Aligning expectations with teens can empower them to succeed. Canceling silent contracts can build trust in relationships. Open dialogues can help clarify assumptions and expectations. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

What Scoreboard is Your Teen Athlete Using?!

Parents, what scoreboard are you using to measure your teen's success—and is it hurting more than helping? And, what scoreboard are they using to measure success—and is it creating momentum or stress in their lives? Do you ever wonder if your teen is chasing results just to keep you happy—or worse, to feel worthy? We’re digging into that "silent contract" so many families carry without talking about it. You’ll walk away with tools to separate your teen’s performance from their identity, and strategies for helping them craft a scoreboard that reflects who they really want to become. Find the Stuff You Want! 00:00 Defining Success: Momentum vs. Stress 01:59 Reflective Questions for Parents 06:01 Understanding Silent Contracts in Success 09:59 The Importance of Identity in Success 13:54 Different Scoreboards: Aligning Definitions of Success 19:59 Opportunities in Meltdowns: Growth Mindset 23:56 The Scoreboard Course--Creating Your Own Scoreboard for Success The Takeaways! -The way we define success can create momentum or stress. -Reflective questions help parents understand their own definition of success. -"Silent contracts" can exist in relationships without being discussed. -It's crucial for teens to separate their identity from their performance. -Parents should encourage their kids to define success for themselves. -Meltdowns can be opportunities for growth and understanding. -Creating a personal scoreboard helps measure success in a meaningful way. -Chasing results can lead to dissatisfaction and a never-ending pursuit. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

Is Your Teen Wiser Than You Think?

Parenting teens isn’t about talking more — it’s about asking better. Discover the Question Only Tool today. Every parent wants their teen to succeed. But success doesn’t come from micromanaging — it comes from ownership. In this episode, we show you how to use The Question Only Conversation to guide your teen toward greater autonomy, confidence, and motivation — all while strengthening your bond. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Teen Wisdom 03:51 The Shift from Parenting to Coaching 07:55 Empowering Teens Through Questions 10:02 The Power of Inquiry-Based Conversations 11:53 Real-Life Examples: Jason's Track Success 15:01 Maya's Dance Audition Journey 17:58 Lessons from Phil Jackson's Coaching Style 20:58 Implementing The Question Only Conversation (QOC) Gold Nuggets -Teens often possess wisdom that parents may overlook. -Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance relationships. -Asking questions can empower teens to express their thoughts. -Unsolicited advice can hinder a teen's sense of autonomy. -Question Only Conversation is a powerful tool for parents. -Building a relationship based on respect leads to better communication. -Teens need to feel ownership of their successes. -Self-determination theory emphasizes autonomy, mastery, and connection. -Effective communication can prevent breakdowns in relationships. -Parents should act as mirrors to help teens process their experiences. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful if you would like, review, or comment or SHARE an episode from any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

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