The family is a system and you need to know how the system works. Each family member is an individual and has a functionality to their own, the way they act and how the can contribute to the family dynamic. We need to know our functionality when it comes to dealing within the family system and how prepared are we, how are we doing matters to the way we can contribute. The degree of our contribution to the family dynamic is our potential. And there are three types of obstacles that interfere with our ability to contribute, we need to be aware of them.