Most caregiver advice goes straight to your feelings — the guilt, the resentment, the sense that you’re not doing enough. This episode goes somewhere else entirely. Retired Occupational Therapist, Certified Aging in Place Specialist, and Dementia Care Specialist Esther Kane makes the case that what exhausted caregivers are calling failure is very often physical depletion instead: broken sleep, meals eaten standing up, water rationed on purpose, and years of deferred care of their own. She walks through the safe-transfer basics nobody teaches family caregivers, why one unbroken block of sleep beats seven broken hours, what changes physically when dementia is part of the picture, and the specific signs that belong to a doctor rather than to willpower. If you have been trying to be a better person when what you actually needed was a glass of water a ...