Episode notes
Why do so many women make relationships the center of their lives?
In Part 1 of my De-Centering Men mini series, we're talking about why it happens in the first place.
Because the truth is, most of us weren't born believing our worth depended on being chosen.
We learned it.
In this episode, we talk about:
• Why we confuse being chosen with being worthy
• Why society teaches us that a relationship is the "happy ending"
• Why validation from someone else can feel safer than validating ourselves
• How we accidentally build our identity around who wants us
• The fear of being alone
• The fear of falling behind while everyone else gets married
• Why we're often looking for someone to complete us instead of complement us
One of the biggest realizations I had was this:
"I wasn't obsessed with finding a boyfriend. I was obsessed with finally feeling enough."
This conversation isn't about blaming women or blaming men.
It's about understanding the pattern so we can finally break it.
Because when you stop centering your life around relationships, you finally have the space to build a life that feels like your own.
👑 If you're ready to choose yourself, build your confidence, strengthen your boundaries, and stop abandoning yourself in relationships, you're in the right place.
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