The Queerly Blax Show With Ashley

The Queerly Blax Show With Ashley

by Ashley Harris
Society & CulturePersonal Journals
Season 1

Inclusive Churches Matter WITH Pastor Valarie: Feeling Uncomfortable in a Traditional Baptist Church, Reconciling Religion & Sexuality, Meaning of an Inclusive Church

Inclusive Churches Matter WITH Pastor Valarie: Feeling Uncomfortable in a Traditional Baptist Church, Reconciling Religion & Sexuality, Meaning of an Inclusive Church In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Pastor Val. We talked about her upbringing, growing up in the south as a LGBTQ woman, leaving her home Baptist church to start an inclusive church and so much more! Check it out! 01:16 – Pastor Val introduction 03:57 – Pastor Val recalls her first time liking a girl 06:10 – Coming out to mom 09:25 – Trying to date men and how it compared to friends 11:39 – First experienced adversity as a LGBTQ woman in church 13:08 – Starting her own church, First Liberty Church 18:45 – Her previous pastor voting on Marriage Equality officiating 24:30 – The beginning of her church and preaching even when no one showed up 27:19 – What it means to be an inclusive church 30:02 – The biblical interpretations of ‘homosexual quotes’ 35:36 – Highlighting LGBT couples in love on Instagram 39:05 – Advice to a person having their own struggle 42:01 – Theme song for her life Social Media Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax Queerly Blax Podcast: https://pod.link/1602328143 Queerly Blax Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbTFH1KU4zjauIBMlxhxHVQ/videos Pastor Val IG: @pastor_valarie Pastor Val Church, First Liberty Baptist: https://valarieoliver.wixsite.com/firstlibertychurch?fbclid=IwAR3Q55CBW5cWN4o2fXwJqxHoOe45mbS0K6IKV1dPgNKo1xTAD-Oh7Qrz3kY
S1 · E31
Jun 13, 2022
44:20

Pushin P in the DM’s WITH Dee & Kendra: Having Boundaries with family, Date Nights in a Long Term LGBTQ Relationship, and Their Hawaii Engagement

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Dee & Kendra Reynolds. We talked about how they met, getting engaged in Hawaii, managing difficult family dynamics, keeping the love alive in a long-term relationship and so much more! Check it out! 01:53 – How Dee & Kendra Met 07:49 – Their Process of Dating & Getting Married 08:15- Proposing in Hawaii 10:32 – Meeting each others family members 13:50 – Difficult family encounters and meetings 17:51- Protecting your person against challenging family dynamics 20:20 – Providing comfort to one another through hard family situations 23:45- Differences now vs the beginning of the relationship 28:10 – Sharing the date night responsibilities and showing each other love equally 31:19 – Family Boundaries and talking about limiting family help 37:05 – Relationship advice Social Media Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax Dee & Kendra IG: @meetthereynolds
S1 · E30
Jun 12, 2022
41:31

Unchained From Trauma WITH Sharie Lawrence: Growing up as a Tomboy, Healing Childhood Trauma, Challenging Family Dynamics, Meeting & Marrying Her Wife

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Sharie Lawrence. We talked about her brand-new book called Love & Lies, the process of healing from childhood trauma, identifying with boyish things growing up, her healing journey to be the best partner for her wife and so much more! Check it out! 01:13 – Sharie Lawrence introduction 03:55 – First encounter with sexuality 07:10 – First girlfriend in the 8th grade 09:41- Mom finding letters under her bed to a girlfriend 10:44 – Process of writing her book “Love & Lies” 16:31 – Bridging the gap in childhood to adulthood 18:33 – Meeting her wife Carla 22:13 – Submitting to the healing process 26:31 – Labels and the confusion of it all 24:51 – Lawrence Life business endeavors 29:24 – Theme song for your life: Marvin Sapp, Never Would Have Made It 30:13 – Advice to young people Social Media Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax Sharie IG: @lawrence_life521 Sharie Tiktok: @lawrence_life Sharie New Book: Love & Lies, Damaged but Not Broken https://www.amazon.com/Love-Lies-Damaged-But-Broken/dp/B09XF3K7R7/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=14D8AW6V9YC7B&keywords=love+and+lies+by+sharie+lawrence&qid=1652050275&sprefix=%2Caps%2C78&sr=8-1
S1 · E29
Jun 10, 2022
31:33

A Pandemic Love Story WITH Ashlee & Jordan Hodge: Meeting & Marrying in the Pandemic , Coming Out Stories, Blending Family & Atlanta Dating Scene

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Ashlee & Jordan Hodge. We talked about dating in the pandemic, coming out stories, being a blended family, Atlanta dating scene and so much more! Check it out! 01:03- Ashlee & Jordan Introduction 03:21- Coming out stories 06:59- Growing up in the Virgin Islands 08:49- Process of dating before marriage 14:39- Meeting & Marrying in the Pandemic 20:31- Gay scene in Atlanta 21:21- Conversations with their son about their relationship 26:26- Valentine’s Day celebration 27:49- Theme song for your life 29:02- Advice to someone on queer journey 29:30- Blending family and managing multiple parents 31:30- Expanding their family 33:51- First year anniversary trip 36:55- Theme song for your life 38:20-Advice to someone on their queer journey Social Media Ashlee & Jordan IG: @happilyeverhodge Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax
S1 · E28
Jun 8, 2022
40:30

Queer, Black & Educated WITH Jonathan Allen: Growing up as a Childhood Preacher, Battling Through Judgment, Navigating a DL Relationship & LGBTQ+ Advocacy

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Jonathan Allen. We talked about his upbringing in the south as a childhood preacher, early recollections of queerness, battling through challenges of judgment, marrying his husband, Leadership Brainery and so much more! Check it out! 01:23- Jonathan Allen Introduction 03:43- First encounter with sexuality as a kid 05:10- being from the church and navigating the world 10:41- Fighting being gay from a young age 11:53- First sermon he ever preached & reflecting on his life mentor 19:53- How he met his husband 25:15- Navigating a DL relationship 32:38- First time he went public with his partner 37:21- Community response to coming out with his partner 42:36- Balancing sexuality, masculinity, and his professional career 48:00- Leadership Brainery 54:12- Reconciling being a black advocate & a queer advocate 59:38- Advice to young queer people Social Media QueerlyBlax IG: @queerlyblax Jonathan IG: @johnathanforall Leadership Brainery IG: @leadershipbrainery Leadership Brainery Website: https://www.leadershipbrainery.org/
S1 · E27
Jun 6, 2022
1:01:57

Black Queer Parenting WITH Mia Cooley: Parenting as a Queer Mother, Creating Safe Space as a Black Parent, Importance of Black Maternal HealthCare & Parenting a Gay Son

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Mia Cooley, Founder of ParentxHood. We talked about Mia’s coming out story, parenting as a black queer mother, biggest challenges in black maternal health, importance of safe spaces for black LGBTQ parents, as well as the upcoming ParentxHood and so much more! Check it out! 01:18 – Mia Cooley Introduction 02:51- Coming out story 06:31- The start of ParentxHood 11:20- Challenges with Black Maternal Healthcare 16:24- Parenting as a queer parent and answering difficult questions 19:26- Knowing that her son was gay 23:40- Co-parenting Challenges 27:07- Traveling as a queer family 29:59- Black Parent Pride Summit (June 25-26 Atlanta, GA) 33:06- Theme Song for your life 33:40- Advice to parent of a queer child Social Media Mia Cooley IG: thebigmommamia ParentxHood IG: parentxhood xHood on Facebook
S1 · E26
Jun 5, 2022
35:34

Break Up to Make Up WITH Kim & Jade: Getting Married & Divorced While Still In Love, Rebuilding the Relationship, Childhood Trauma in Adulthood

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Kim & Jade. We talked about getting married and divorced while still in love, rebuilding the relationship, childhood trauma in adulthood and so much more! Check it out! 02:10- Coming out stories 04:55- How they met 13:34- The work involved in marriage 24:18- Kim talks about releasing control in a relationship 29:49- When & why they got divorced 38:27- Jade talks about realizing that Kim was serious about divorce 45:48- The work involved in marriage 50:34- Jade talks about breakthrough in self work 55:28- Rebuilding their relationship after divorcing 01:03:28- Advice for couples going through divorce Social Media Kim IG: @kimd850 Jade IG: jadeisher Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax
S1 · E25
Jun 2, 2022
1:15:11

Trap House Queen WITH Ian Haddock: Growing up as a Flamboyant Kid, Growing up in a Trap House Environment, Starting the Normal Anamoly Initative through Sex Work, and Changing the Narrative Around Queer People

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Ian Haddock. We talked about his organization The Normal Anomaly Initiative, growing up in Texas as a gay man, sex and its impact on relationship, promiscuity and so much more! Check it out! 01:15- Ian Haddock Introduction 03:46- Talks about challenges growing up as a flamoyant kid 07:40- Story of “Being to gay” while driving with his brother 13:30- We break down the differences in being gay in Texas 18:19- Living in Houston and crazy experiences 20:11- The Normal Anomaly Initiative work 21:35- Talk to his aunt about impact of political decisions on LGBT people 25:42- Ian discusses The Normal Anomaly Initative start from him being a sex worker 36:44- Challenges with having a negative relationship with sex 41:33- story of waiting to have sex with a partner 47:25- Theme Song for his life 48:26- Advice for someone on their own queer journey Social Media Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax Ian IG: @ianlhaddock The Normal Anamoly Initiative IG: @thenormalanomaly The Normal Anamoly Initiative website: https://www.normalanomaly.org/
S1 · E24
Jun 1, 2022
50:57

Pray The Gay Away WITH Kevin Dwayne: Blackmailed into Pray The Gay Away Therapy, Parents Egos with Child’s Sexuality, Traumatic Childhood Experiences and the Journey to Joy

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Kevin. We talked about being blackmailed into going to Pray the gay away school, growing up in a Christian school, traumatic childhood experiences, the journey to finding joy and so much more! Check it out! 01:13- Kevin Dwayne introduction 06:55- First encounter with sexuality in 1st grade 09:07- Traumatic story of when someone first called him gay 12:04- Going to Christian school and dating girls 16:00- Beginning of Coming out story and being blackmailed 17:10- Being Blackmailed into Praying the Gay Away 20:52- Talking to parents about sexuality 22:39- Niggas be Gay 27:34- Empathizing with the Oppressor 29:31- In-depth levels of queer language and terms 33:40- Self Reflecting during Covid 35:37- Learning to love himself 44:02- Advice for someone on queer journey Social Media Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax Kevin Dwayne IG: @theworldofkevin Website: www.kevindwayne.com
S1 · E23
May 29, 2022
46:08

19 Year Old Virgin WITH Branden: Body Positivity as a Man, Bad Dating Experiences & Feminine Flamboyant Mannnerisms

In this week’s episode of The Queerly Blax Show, I had a conversation with Branden Lee. We talked about having feminine mannerisms, bad dating experiences, body positivity, his 1st book, and so much more! Check it out! 00:40- Branden Lee introduction 03:04- we talk about his First dating experience 07:49- Challenges of having feminine mannerisms 09:39- Body positivity and overcoming the bullying 14:36- The Virgin P*rn star book by Branden 19:55- First blog entry to the Virgin P*rn star 20:51- Craziest stories in his book 24:49- Experience dating online 26:50- Theme song for Brande Links Queerly Blax IG: @queerlyblax Branden IG: https://www.instagram.com/brandenesss/?hl=en Branden LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/Brandeness Branden’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Virgin-Porn-Star-1/dp/B09TMYW6ZL
S1 · E22
May 22, 2022
30:40
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