No Regretz Marriage
Season 1
No Regretz Marriage Intro
Our Story Part 1
Our Story Part 2
The Why of Marriage
The Love Tank
"and God created them male and female."
Communication 101
Pathways
Cole
Be Intentional Part 1
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by Johnny & Carla Morton
Introductory episode for No Regretz Marriage podcast.. A liitle bit about who we are.
With a new podcast some people might be wondering, "Why should I listen to these people?" In this episode, we share the beginning or our story and the challenges we faced. We will finish the story in the next episode. It can be a little heavy at times, but I hope you enjoy it.
Carla and I finish our story as God takes us through the hardest days of our lives. Life can be painful, but God's grace is sufficient.
Why did God create marriage? Understanding the why can give you both hope and stamina when you face the challenges of life and marriage. “Marriage is the relationship designed by God, patterned after the relationship of the Trinity, whereby God joins together an individual man and women into one flesh, fulfilling our longing for companionship, intimacy, and vulnerability; designed to raise godly generations; creating a partnership which God uses to mold us into the image of Christ; teaching us to love our spouse and others with a selfless love in order that we may display to the world the glorious truth of the gospel - that God loves us in our brokenness, Jesus died to redeem us, and God desires an intimate relationship with us!”
Marriages run on love. How full is your love tank? How about your spouse? be intentional about showing love to your spouse.
One of the big challenges married couples can face is learning to deal with the differences in the way that men and women think. A college professor once said, "As different as men and women are physically, the difference in the way their brains work is even more profound." If you are not careful, you can make brain differences into heart differences. Couples need to learn to celebrate and appreciate the way their spouse thinks differently than they do. Those differences can make them a stronger team.
One of the keys to healthy relationships is communication. It's not just the words that are spoken, but includes tone and body language as well. Evn silence can be a form of communication. How well do you and your spouse communicate? Do you go beyond sheduling and surface levels. Good communication skills are essential in building deep intimacy in your marriage.
Walk the same route through a forest over and over and you create a pathway. You continue to follow it because it has been ingrained in your mind. Often, our family of origen has created the same type of pathways in our lives. We come into marriage with established ideas about what marriage will be like, what roles a husband or wife should take, how we should spend vacations and holidays. That's the way your family did it and it feels right to you. What happens when a couple's pathways conflict? What are the pathways you are building or have constructed for your children? Navigating the pathways smoothly is one of the many challenges we face in this journey of marriage.
Paul tells us in Romans that, "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,." I don't know that we believed that 26 years ago when our third son, Cole, was born. He was our second child born with a congenital heart defect. In the years ahead though, God proved his promise to be true. It was hard, we didn't always handle the challenges well, but God used Cole to help transform our relationship with him and each other. Even in the storms of life, you can thrive together.
Great marriages don't just happen. They result from coup[es being intentional about doing the things that build strong, vibrant, lasting marriages. If you are not intentional about buliding your marriage, you will drift along and before you know it, find yourself disconnected from your spouse and wondering how you got there. This podcast is the first of two focuseds on being intentional in your marriage. We focus on the three "C"'s: Creating a Vision, Connecting, and Cherishing.