Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to date someone while placing certain rules on the relationship but didn't know how to do it properly? Well, let me tell you, that you're not the only one.  It is unrealistic to think that you will always FEEL in love. It’s unrealistic to think that, because you love each other, you will never disagree. It is unrealistic to expect your spouse to know what you are thinking or to just understand when you are upset.  The secret is to know what your expectations are, and be honest about them.  Both with yourself, and with your partner.

Do you just want sex?

Great, be honest about that. It will turn a lot of people off. But better now, than later, after you’ve spent a lot of time with a partner with incompatible expectations and hurt feelings.

Do you want to just kind of ...