Episode notes
Good Mom, Bad B*tch
Being a good mom does not require disappearing inside of motherhood.
Welcome to the first episode of Motherhood Is a MF, where Kei is laying the foundation for the entire show: you can love motherhood, love your children and still be deeply committed to having a life that belongs to you.
This week, we’re talking about mom guilt, identity after motherhood, self-care, friendships, ambition and what it really means to choose yourself as a mom.
Kei gets into:
• The unwritten rules about what a “good mom” should look like • Why putting yourself first does not automatically mean putting your children last • Feeling guilty about girls’ trips, spending money on yourself or simply wanting a break • Why overwork and exhaustion are not proof of good motherhood • Protecting your friendships, career, relationships, hobbies and dreams after having children • Finding self-care that feels good instead of creating another obligation • Why your children benefit from seeing you live a full life • Creating your own hours of operation and protecting your peace
Then, in Letter From the Village, a mom admits she couldn't wait for the kids to go back to school — and immediately wondered whether enjoying the peace and quiet made her a bad mom.
It doesn't.
And in From Mother to MUVA, Kei leaves you with one question:
What is one thing you love about yourself that has absolutely nothing to do with how well you take care of anybody else?
Do more of that.
Remember:
You are more than what you do for everybody else.
You are allowed to choose yourself without guilt, rest without earning it, protect your peace without apology and make room for joy on purpose.
You are still that girl.
Motherhood will never make you forget it.
Motherhood Is a MF is the podcast about motherhood that has absolutely nothing to do with raising kids.
This one’s about the mom — her identity, ambition and relationships.
Letter From the Village: motherhoodisamf@gmail.com
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