Most people think commitment is a one-time decision. Ellie Aaron and James Wightman would tell you it's actually a daily practice — one you have to keep choosing, especially when it gets hard.

In this conversation, the two of them explore what commitment really looks like across love, leadership, and self-leadership. They talk about the difference between actually looking at your own patterns versus just criticizing yourself, why getting too specific about what you want in a relationship can actually keep you from recognizing it when it shows up, and the qualities worth prioritizing over a predetermined checklist. They also get into when it's appropriate to walk away from a relationship or a commitment, and when what feels like quitting is really just a sign that the process — not the goal — needs to change.

They share openly from the ...