Here's Your Red Flag

by Toni and Lisa

Season 2

The Steps to Recognizing and Breaking Free from Narcissists and Toxic Relationships

Toni and Lisa discuss how all the past episodes lay a foundation for a specific order of steps in the learning process for people whether in healthy or in narcissistic, abusive and toxic relationships. In both their own lives and in working with others in abusive, toxic and narcissistic relationships, Toni and Lisa have learned that it is beneficial to lay a specific, solid foundation so that we can understand not just what narcissism is but to understand and acknowledge if we are in an abusive or toxic relationship or situation. Lisa and Toni discuss the specific order of steps in the learning process as people become aware of their situation and especially if they are choosing to exit relationships with toxic people. We hope that today’s episode solidifies for our wonderful audience the importance of building a foundation by getting in touch with the inner you. If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org Other helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E5

Feb 10, 2023

31:48

Freeing Rapunzel: Toni and Lisa Interview Author, Anne-Christine Witzgall Who was Raised in an Abusive Home

Freeing Rapunzel is Anne-Christine Witzgall’s first book. Her memoir is about how she escaped the shadows of her family’s Nazi past during the cold war era in West Berlin, Germany. This book reveals the consequences of family secrets on each family member. It becomes clear that by hiding past experiences, trauma is transferred to the next generation, but the story also explores the deeper issues women of all ages and cultures face: affirming their self-worth, purpose and becoming resilient. Link to Anne’s Book, Freeing Rapunzel: https://boook.link/Freeing-Rapunzel Get in touch with Anne-Christine Witzgall: https://www.annelifecoaching.com/ Other books mentioned in this episode: Why Does He Do That? (Lundy Bandcroft) The Body Keeps the Score (Bessel A. Van Der Kolk) If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

S2 · E6

Feb 24, 2023

1:01:42

Part 1 “Lily”: Lily Discusses How Her Upbringing Led to Marriage to a Narcissistic Abuser

Explicit

Content warning. This episode discusses instances of sexual abuse and animal abuse. Please listen with care. Toni and Lisa interview “Lily”, a listener who reached out to share her story of marriage to a narcissistic abusive husband. In part 1, Lily discusses how her upbringing and low self-esteem contributed to her not seeing vital red flags. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. The book mentioned in this episode: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bandcroft If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org Other helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E7

Mar 10, 2023

52:06

Part 2 “Lily”: The Many Red Flags and the Cycle of Abuse in her Marriage to a Narcissist

Explicit

CONTENT WARNING There are topics including sexual abuse and violence and some strong language this episode. Please listen with care. Lily will detail her former husband’s love bombing and grooming of her, what hooked her and the many red flags she noticed and pushed aside. She will further talk about his devaluing and her exit from the relationship. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourred Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E8

Mar 24, 2023

1:01:52

Part 3: “Lily” Discusses the Dramatic Ending to Her Marriage with Her Abusive Narcissistic Husband and Battling the Complex Court System for Child Custody and Prevailing!

Lily takes the listeners through the dramatic ending of her marriage, as well as how she navigated the court system in California to eventually gain 90% custody of her children. She provides practical steps to take and pitfalls to avoid for anyone who may be in similar circumstances. We hope this episode will arm you with some vital information that you can use to best support yourself or your loved ones in abusive and narcissistic relationships.CONTENT WARNING There are topics including verbal abuse and violence and some strong language in this episode. Please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes.If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-readingHere's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E9

Apr 7, 2023

1:10:41

Part 1: “Victoria” Details her Relationship with a Diabolical Swindler and Scam Artist

Toni and Lisa talk with “Victoria” about her relationship with a man claiming to be a professional poker player who in reality was actually a serial swindler and scam artist, abuser and narcissist. It’s so easy to wear blinders in matters of the heart. We hope this episode will arm you with some vital information to avoid falling into the clutches of people who prey on others’ financial and emotional vulnerabilities. This episode is intended for mature audiences only—please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E10

Apr 21, 2023

52:56

Part 2: “Victoria” Discusses Her Childhood Hardwiring and how that Primed Her to Become a Target of Eugene, the Swindler

Toni and Lisa delve deeper with Victoria about her childhood hardwiring that contributed to her attraction to narcissistic and exploitative men as well as what contributed to those types of toxic men being attracted to her. They also discuss what she’s learned from the relationship with Eugene and what she’s done to move on. ***STRONG CONTENT WARNING*** Suicidal ideation is discussed in the second half of this episode. This episode is intended for mature audiences only—please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa has her masters in school counseling and working toward becoming a licensed professional counselor. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org Other helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E11

May 5, 2023

58:12

Part 3: “Victoria” Discusses the Red Flags she Missed and Dismissed in her Relationship with Eugene, the Swindler

Toni and Lisa talk with “Victoria” about the red flags to watch for if one believes they may be in a relationship with a swindler, con artist or scammer. If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourred Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa has her masters in school counseling and working toward becoming a licensed professional counselor. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E12

May 19, 2023

44:19

Red Flags in a Relationship with a Swindler, Con Artist or Scammer

Toni and Lisa discuss the major red flags to watch for if one believes they may be in a relationship with a swindler, con artist or scammer.Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only—please listen with care. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. If you enjoyed our podcast, please follow us and leave us 5 stars if you listen on Apple Podcast. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter:Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourredExcellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-readingHere's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa has her masters in school counseling and is working toward becoming a licensed professional counselor.If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages.If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

S2 · E13

Jun 2, 2023

17:49

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