In this episode, I explore the concept of self-fulfilling prophecies in relationships and how the stories we carry about ourselves in love can shape our dating experiences.

Long before we meet someone, many of us already have an internal narrative about who we are in relationships. Some people believe they’re never the one who gets chosen, others fear that commitment will cost them their independence, and some expect relationships to end in disappointment. These beliefs often operate quietly in the background, but they can influence how we behave, what we tolerate, and how we interpret our partner’s actions.

In this episode I discuss how self-concept influences relationship patterns, why two people can date the same type of partner but have very different experiences, and how self-fulfilling prophecies can keep us stuck in cycles we  ...