Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

by Amber Akilla
Society & Culture
Season 4

57 - do exes always come back and does it matter? (youtube ep)

let's talk about HEART BREAKKKK and the period between a break up and actually moving on - does your ex come back? does it matter if they do? sharing my own thoughts and feelings along with some comments i received on tiktok videos i've made on this topic.   SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE PLS  https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla i said i wouldn't update podcast audio but ppl have said they still like listening on audio platforms so i'll try my best to update here too xx ask me a question~recieve a written pep talk from me! https://direct.me/l/67j6 follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberak... 13:45 when they come back/ what you realize when they come back  18:21 importance of journalling in healing  20:33 minimum a year for someone to change  21:21 why do you wanna be w someone that needs to lose you  23:00 dating for association 26:45 they come back  27:00 you want to meet as new people  28:53 rebuilding your sense of self  30:25 when they're dating someone new and still slide in the dms lol  38:21 being on the same team  41:38 comments from tiktok  44:45 being intentionally single  1:00:00 take how people treat others into consideration   love and heartbreak embracing good and bad running from your emotions love and heartbreak are inextricably linked how do you really know someone grieving potential processing your grief building  a new sense of self when they come back while dating someone new being vulnerable and learning to trust yourself  lingering pain after breakups bad apologies being intentionally single and alone why do people change
S4 · E15
Jan 25, 2023
1:10:39

56 - q&a - dating someone who is friends w their ex, incels, law school

welcome backkkkk - a lil q&a for y'all ! maybe i do this once a month?? let me know what you think !   ask me a question~receive a written pep talk from me! https://direct.me/l/67j6  the podcast is moving to video format!! make sure to subscribe  *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧  https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberak... https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ 3:35 dating your best friend’s brother? 4:32 - releasing fear around people pleasing 10:02 - experience being a content creator 13:14 - incels vs temporary celibacy 21:34 - dating someone that’s still close friends with an ex 24:41 - making new friends in a new city 28:37 - trying to be friends with someone you were previously involved with 32:22 my thoughts on law school and tertiary education
S4 · E14
Jan 17, 2023
40:26

55 - how to ask people out (youtube ep)

ranting about gaps in communication hehehe sometimes i think we overlook how important it is to become aware of the ways we share our reality and how we connect with others and build relationships. i discuss a framework/formula that i think helps to structure communication for any relationship context - friendship, romance, work - and then go on a bunch of tangents as usual. maybe social media has us living in our heads and creates the illusion that people are privy to what's going on in our noggin... when they don't lmk what u think ! subscribe to my youtube ☆ all future long form content will be here! https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
S4 · E13
Dec 29, 2022
22:22

54 - boy confessions - "the game", people pleasing in men, authenticity in dating, ghosting & rejection

welcome to the second boy confessions episode!!! this episode provides a perspective that is so different to the previous episode, i hope you enjoy! "Ash" is in his early mid-30s living in LA - we cover his thoughts on the notorious pick up artist bible "The Game", authenticity in dating, dating apps, how his first love has affected his expectations in dating, how he has become aware of his people pleasing tendencies, understanding communication issues in relationships, deciding what kind of commitment - if at all he is looking for. SO MANY THINGS!! let me know what you think of this episode ♡ follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
S4 · E12
Nov 29, 2022
1:59:24

53 - w nadine milad - ghosting, people pleasing, friend break-ups

i loved this conversation i had with actress, writer and content creator Nadine Milad - grab a snack and get comfy because we cover soo much in this episode from ghosting, authenticity online, friend break-ups, being recovering people pleasers and so much more. let me know what you thought of this episode and if Nadine and I should do more episodes together! i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow nadine ☆ https://www.tiktok.com/@nadinemilad https://www.instagram.com/nadinemilad_/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2s6ip6nmO_IYnN22CSbkiA https://open.spotify.com/show/0l4RZ0080MpPY1PETgeHd1?si=c3127e4f799246b1 follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
S4 · E11
Nov 22, 2022
1:55:42

52 - pre 30 panic, quarter life crisis pt.2 listener submissions

part two of the quarter life crisis discussion ~ i read some submissions from listeners on the topic and provide my perspective and thoughts. i actually think in the months since recording these episodes i care even less about age and more about being hot and having fun!!! it's natural to feel external pressures on the timeline of your life, but your life is for you to define! would love to hear your thoughts on this topic please feel free to write to meeee! xx i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
S4 · E10
Nov 15, 2022
45:35

51 - quarter life crisis, pre-30 panic pt.1 self esteem

part one in a series of episodes where i discuss the quarter life crisis and pre-30 panic. i’ve thought about this a lot as i get to the tail end of my 20s so i’m sharing my thoughts here with you! books mentioned: six pillars of self esteem https://amzn.to/3xAzl3r i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
Nov 8, 2022
35:02
Season 4

50 - expectations, standards & the bare minimum

keep your expectations low, your standards high.... & don't feel like you need to reward the bare minimum!!! slightly modifying a saying that i've carried with me through the years. how could i have held myself back like this!!?? anyways, we slive and slearn and level tf up. books mentioned six pillars of self esteem https://amzn.to/3xAzl3r i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
S4 · E8
Nov 1, 2022
41:09

49 - boy confessions: "timothee" on cheating, 5 years single, new commitments & more

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so excited to share the first boy confessions episode!!! anonymously interviewing men so they can share honest reflections, opinions and experiences on masculinity, life, love, friendship, work and more. “Timothee” - 33 is Asian-American, born and raised in Los Angeles and currently living in Shanghai working as a creative director for an international brand. in this episode we discuss the influence of women on his life, being single for five years before his current relationship as well as his advice for men and women on what to do when a guy withdraws from a relationship or connection. i ask him questions he's never been asked about infidelity and cheating and we explore how his views around traditional long term commitment have changed over time. thank you to my guest for coming on the show, we had so much fun recording this episode and hope you enjoy it too! apologies in advance for the noise in the recording :') i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
S4 · E7
Oct 25, 2022
1:16:26

48 - friends with benefits & bootycalls

what's the difference between a friend with benefits and a booty call? is it worth risking a friendship? do they even make sense??? lets discuss lol i'm gonna be on youtube moreeee make sure to subscribe please *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla follow me ☆ instagram.com⁠/amberakilla 小红书 @amberakilla youtube.com/@amberakilla⁠ patreon.com/amberakilla⁠ ⁠instagram.com⁠/friend.crush ⁠www.tiktok.com⁠ ⁠twitter.com⁠ music & mixes ☼ ⁠soundcloud.com⁠ ⁠open.spotify.com 网易云音乐 shop merch friendcrush.club
Oct 18, 2022
32:37
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