Episode notes
following from my previous "how to turn a flop into a flopportunity" video - once you've survived the flop, here are five things to consider when maintaining and protecting your slay. after a challenging or down period, its easy to become careless or develop blindspots once we think we've moved on from something, but that can also lead to blindspots and creating an unsustainable cycle. these are some mindset shifts that have helped me to feel like i'm actually growing, transforming and being hot and having fun, rather than being on a floppercoaster.
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00:00 - intro
01:33 - flop and slay are equally important
03:44 - 1. the flop: where you were
04:16 - 2. the shift: what got you out
05:57 - 3. the aftermath: who & what survives
09:23 - you can’t drag other people up, but anyone can drag you down
(relationships, habits, patterns)
11:12 - 4. maintenance: protecting your slay
13:43 - discipline & delayed gratification as a form of self-devotion
14:32 - 80/20 rule
16:48 - redefine key terms - metacognition
18:04 - be your own bestie
20:02 - lean into your new identity
21:58 - 5. long term: micro-flopping & adaptability
22:12 - embrace the contrast, hold multiple truths at once
22:53 - be aware of your natural negative bias
related videos:
flop into flopportunity
the price of slaying is haters
the vibe you bring to the function
hot girl habits
meditation
journalling
non-negotiable hobbies
slay habits: how to start new habits, habit forming
metacognition: speak to the manager within
defining love
increase your baseline
everything is vibes: be hot and have fun
hot girls don’t let comparison be the theif of joy