Signing the Psychological Pre-Nup...

Signing the Psychological Pre-Nup: D/s Breakups with Hope

Explicit
Don’t Scare the Newbies! by kirizal & S
E20
Jan 7, 2026
01:16:46

Episode notes

kirizal’s ex, Hope (previously known as Alexea), joins U/us this episode to talk about navigating breakups in power exchange relationships. How do people disentangle their lives when they have created such an interdependent structure? How do submissives decondition from rules that have become reflex? And how can kinky couples exit plan for a softer landing while still riding the optimism of the honeymoon period? Plus - staying friends with exes, kitchen chaos, and we address the “missing chapter” from kirizal’s content - That big breakup.

Content Note: Discussion of abuse within D/s, and attempted suicide (brief, no details).

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Keywords

kink
bdsm
relationships
power exchange
contracts
break ups