We worry we sometimes confuse our listeners with mixed messages.

We say: don't be a jerk. Don't sweat the small stuff. Bite you tongue unless something really matters. Be careful not to endlessly whine and moan at your partner.

We also say: when something bothers you, speak up early, do it directly but without heat, and ask for what you want.

What do we really mean? And how do you make your way through this tricky terrain?

All this and more in this episode.

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