Built Not Wished

Built Not Wished

by Dave McKee
Alternative HealthSpirituality
Season 1

After twenty years David switched careers and hasn't looked back

What stands out about Dave isn’t flash. It isn’t ego. It isn’t chasing status. It’s steadiness. In a world addicted to quick wins and viral moments, Dave reminds us that the real victories are built in quiet rooms, early mornings, long weeks, and hard decisions. Nobody sees the thousands of ordinary days that create an extraordinary life. But that’s where it happens.
S1 · E10
Mar 4, 2026
1:44:48

Starting Strong: Soft Skills, Hard Truths, and Building a Career That Lasts

Today’s episode is for anyone just starting out in a new career. Maybe you're 22 and fresh out of school. Maybe you're 32 and starting over. Maybe you're 52 and pivoting after a layoff. Doesn’t matter. Starting is starting. And here’s what I want to talk about today: Not your technical skills. Not your degree. Not your certifications. Today we’re talking about the things that will determine 80% of your long-term success: How you work with people How you handle disagreement How you show up when you don’t agree with the direction How you build a reputation And how you adapt as the world changes around you Because if forty years in industrial manufacturing taught me anything — through TPS, Kaizen, Lean, and continuous improvement — it’s this: The tools matter. But the people matter more.
S1 · E12
Mar 3, 2026
33:08

Jeff has worked for over 30 years as a spy

Today on Built Not Wished, I sit down with a man who has spent more than three decades in the intelligence world — first in the field, then shaping and training the next generation. Jeff Elkins isn’t the Hollywood version of a spy. There are no car chases or exploding buildings here. What you’ll hear instead is something far more powerful — discipline, adaptability, loyalty, reinvention, and the quiet strength it takes to build a life that lasts. Jeff has seen change. He’s navigated pressure. He’s shifted roles. He’s mentored others. And through it all, he’s played the long game — not chasing flash, but building trust, competence, and credibility over time. If you’ve ever wondered what it takes to stay in one organization for over thirty years… If you’ve ever faced reinvention… If you’ve ever had to recalibrate and keep going… This conversation is for you.
S1 · E9
Feb 25, 2026
1:24:43

Waiting in a World That Never Pauses – Raising Builders in the Age of Instant Everything

I’m your host Dave, and today we’re tackling something that’s reshaping attention spans, discipline, health, learning, and even relationships — often without us realizing it. Instant gratification. This episode isn’t about blaming technology. It’s not about shaming parents. And it’s not about pretending we can rewind the clock to 1985. It’s about something far more powerful. Systems. Because cultural drift is passive. But builders are intentional. And by the end of today’s episode, you’re going to walk away with a practical, structured framework — A3 Thinking — that will help you turn overwhelm into clarity… and chaos into measurable progress.
S1 · E11
Feb 24, 2026
22:03

Audit Your Life: The Brutal Honesty Episode

If someone audited your life right now — not your intentions… not your potential… not your plans… …but your actual habits… Would you pass? If I pulled your bank statement… your screen-time report… your calendar… your step count… your last 90 days of decisions… Would it reflect the person you say you’re becoming? Or the person you’ve been drifting into? Because here’s the truth: Most people don’t fail dramatically. They fade quietly. They don’t collapse. They coast. And coasting feels safe — until you look up five years later and realize nothing changed. Today is not a motivational episode.
S1 · E8
Feb 18, 2026
20:11

Hard Things Win

What is the one goal you’ve quietly given up on? Not the one you talk about. Not the one you post about. The one you used to believe was possible. The weight you were going to lose. The business you were going to start. The discipline you were going to build. The version of yourself you were going to become. What happened? You didn’t fail because you’re incapable. You failed because hard things expose us. They expose our lack of structure. They expose our emotional swings. They expose the gap between who we say we are and what we actually do. And most people… They don’t quit because the goal is impossible. They quit because the process is uncomfortable. But here’s the truth: Comfort has never built anything worth having. Strength is built. Discipline is built. Confidence is built. Character is built. And today we are going to talk about how to accomplish hard things — not by wishing, not by hyping yourself up, but by building a system that forces growth. Because you don’t rise to your wishes. You fall to your structure. And if you build the right structure — you will win.
S1 · E7
Feb 17, 2026
23:43

Recap of Interview with John Elkins Retiring School Teacher

One of the themes that kept surfacing in John’s interview was reality—honest evaluations based on current conditions. Not wishful thinking. Not nostalgia. Just the truth of where you are and what’s in front of you. That idea connects directly to the previous episode with Paul, the VP of Operations, when we talked about leaders who finally “get it.” John talked about the same moment—but from the classroom—when students suddenly get it. That spark. That clarity. That alignment. We’ll also dig into something John modeled so well: understanding your passion—your true north, your compass, whatever you want to call it—and committing to it early. We’ll talk about wealth, too, and why it’s so often misunderstood. Because if John’s life teaches us anything, it’s that real wealth has very little to do with money.
S1 · E6
Feb 11, 2026
56:30

Recap of Interview with VP of Operations Paul Elia

That conversation with a Vice President of Operations wasn’t just about where he ended up—it was about how he got there. And today, we’re going to slow that down. In this episode, I’m replaying some of the highlights from that interview—moments worth sitting with a little longer. Moments that show how most of us start in roughly the same place, with only slight differences in circumstance, opportunity, or timing… and yet we grow into very different roles. We’ll talk about what separates people who drift from people who build. About the quiet desire successful people seem to have to control their own destiny as much as possible. And about the habit of recalibrating—checking their mindset, adjusting course, and making sure they’re still becoming who they intended to become.
S1 · E5
Feb 10, 2026
50:38

Football History and Don't Smile Till Christmas

Every once in a while, you meet someone whose work quietly shapes a community for decades. Someone who doesn’t chase the spotlight, but whose impact is felt in the lives of hundreds — maybe thousands — of young people. Today, we get to sit down with one of those people. My guest is John Elkins, a history teacher who is wrapping up an incredible thirty‑year career. This is his final year in the classroom before retirement, and I wanted to capture his wisdom while the chalk dust is still fresh on his sleeves. We’re going to talk about what’s changed in education, what hasn’t, the moments that shaped him, the lessons he hopes his students carry into adulthood, and what it really means to build a career — not wish for one. Whether you’re a teacher, a parent, a student, or just someone who cares about legacy, this conversation is full of insight.
S1 · E4
Feb 4, 2026
1:36:11

Back Kitchen to Vice President of Operations

“Most people see success from the outside. They see the title. The office. The authority. What they don’t see is the work.” Welcome to Built Not Wished. This podcast is about how real lives are constructed— not imagined, not manifested, not wished into existence— but built through effort, discipline, mistakes, and time. Today’s guest holds the title Vice President of Operations. But that’s not what this conversation is about. We’re not here for executive jargon or polished soundbites. We’re here for the road— the early jobs, the awkward seasons, the lessons that only show up when you’re tired and unsure but keep showing up anyway. This is a conversation about becoming.
S1 · E3
Feb 4, 2026
1:08:48
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